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writes:I'm dating the most amazing guy, but his parents do not want me to see him and try to not let me see him. They hate me for no reason at all. He fights with them, so he can take me to places and now they told him to date anyone except for me.I don't understand why. My question is should we break up because his parents hate me or try to work something out so they will accept me?? Is this worth it?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 Then accept that there is no reasoning with those who don't wish to see reason. If he wants to be with you and you want to stay with him, by all means stay with each other and don't keep it a secret from them. He has to let them know that they have to accept it because you aren't doing anything wrong or anything a parent would worry about. If this relationship lasts, they'll start to see how wrong they are.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Purplelover1629 +, writes (6 May 2011):
Purplelover1629 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell you see he is doing great in school and we never got home late an we haven't had sex or anything we haven't even thought about it. His parents grounded him for no reason and they won't let him talk on the phone with me. I never did anything to offend them and I am super polite around them. I tell him not to fight with them but idk if he listens. I love him so much and it's not fair because I'm a good girl well at least I try to be. Btw his parents are super unreasonable about everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011): Has he asked them their reasons? Did he maybe break some of their rules that you don't know about when you saw each other (coming home late, for example)? Is he doing less well at school recently because he's more focused on you? Is he spending a lot of money on you? Him fighting with them over taking you out is definitely not going to improve their impression of you or your relationship. Maybe they are being unreasonable indeed, but they won't accept that message from a couple of teenagers--that will only breed more hostility.Try to find out their reasons, and show that you are a good influence on their son. That includes helping him do better at school, encouraging him to maybe help more around the house, and avoiding situations where he has to fight with them. Try to talk to them if you can.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (2 May 2011):
Have you ever been alone with them to discuss things? Ask them what reason they have to hate you and listen to them, answer any questions truthfully and let them know how you feel about their son. He obviously really wants to be with you, to fight his own parents just to take you to places shows a great deal of passion. But you need to deal with his parents with a certain amount of diplomacy, let them get to know you and try to get to know them. You don't need to be their best friend but you must at least garner some amount of respect from them.
I hope that helps.
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