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writes: My ex has a new girlfriend. She's fat and ugly, massive bust, and not very similar to him in personality. I'm slim, average looking (although since we broke up I've been getting a hell of a lot of offers from guys!), my chest is quite small but in proportion to the rest of my body, and me and him really had a connection and were so alike, but at the same time totally different. I can't decide whether i'm insulted that he's with her now, who is so very different to me and so very different to him, or whether it should make me feel good about myself because I'm more attractive (supposedly) and more suited to him. Incase you hadn't noticed, I'm still totally into him, and trying to move on because I have to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): There's nothing wrong with you. He probably has a fat fetish with some kind of breast fantasy. This is an incurable mental problem as far as I know. You're way better off to be away from him sooner rather than later.Don't worry, there are plenty of fish in the sea swimming around looking for someone just like you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): just because ur skinny doesnt mean ur more attractive. men have different taste in women, and there are men who like women who are curvey. and every women ur man dates u are goin to think ur prettier cuz ur gonna hate the other women just for being wiht him. dont be insulted, just go and find urself another sexy stud who is going like and love u for u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): I thnk what you are feeling mostly is frustration over the fact that he is dating another girl and she is not even as physically appealing as you are, so what could it have been that drove him away from you?
First of all, I think beauty is really in the eye of the beholder, and you are down on yourself because you have a small chest and the other girl has a bust but a curvier body to go along with it, which to me sounds like maybe she is just in proportion as you are too.
The best thing to do is to not compare yourself to other women when it comes to guys as you never come up equal becaue you are two different women. When I think back over the guys I have dated in the past, they are all very different looking with different body types, looks, hair, smiles and everthing. It is the whole package that attracts you, looks is only a part of the package, the most important is who they are on the inside that hooks you and keeps you interested.
It sounds to me that you and your ex are just not that compatible, you mention that you are so different, but who knows maybe you are compatible and he is just wanting to play the field.
Try to forget about him for now and take up some of those offers from other guys you are getting, date and have some fun and you will probably be over your ex in no time and on to someone new yourself....and that is probably when he will ocme back around when he sees that you are over him, and then you can decide what to do then about the two of you, but right now it is best to just leave him and his new girl alone.
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (29 October 2006):
 don't be insulted. its always hard when your ex gets a new girlfriend but just try to move on with one of the other guys! hehe. He likes her and theres something about her that he finds attractive, just as there was obviously something about you he found attractive when he was with you. Just forget them and move on. If he changes his mind, he knows your number, if he doesn't its his loss. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): No, you should not be insulted about this. What you ex prefers is up too him; just go on with your life and be happy that you are content with your own appearance.
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reader, Aquagal +, writes (29 October 2006):
 You needn't feel insulted at all - he's in the relationship remember, not you. It's normal for people to feel a little insecure about themselves after breaking up and question what went wrong, what the situation is like now, etc. You might even benefit from the fact that he's... lowered his standards. It could make you feel a lot better about yourself inside and out. If you still uncomfortable, ask yourself this: would you feel any better if he had started dating supermodels?
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