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age
36-40,
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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for 3 years. i was there when his ex gave birth to his daughter and when he went to court to get access and he was there when my mum ran off and my dad nearly killed himself. He's just had to move back home with his parents so we don't see as much of each other because his mum hates me and my dad dislikes him. we've spoken to them both saying they're making us un happy but it hasn't sunk in. its putting strain on our relationship and all we do is fight. I don't know what to do please help?!?!?
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reader, AskEve +, writes (12 March 2007):
 If you've been on and off together for 3 years then your parents have seen that the relationship is rocky. They only want what's best for you and they've seen when you've broken up and the pain it's caused you. You say you don't see him as often now, that might be a good thing. It will give you both time to miss one another and see what you both really want from life. You may find you don't miss him as much as you thought you would.
Take things slowly with him and continue to see your friends and have fun when you're not together. Don't revolve your life around him just yet, you are still very young and have your whole life to live. If you're both meant for one another then you will eventually be together so maybe a break from seeing one another so often will test both your feelings.
Don't give your parents a hard time over this though. You're old enough to make your own decisions. Let them see that you have a good quality of life, that your studies are still important to you and that he's not pulling you down. By the way you carry on in your life you can prove to your parents, with time, that the relationship is working but I think personally the break (distance wise) might be a good thing for now.
Eve
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