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writes:Recently, I broke up with my ex. This was because his mother had threatened to kick him out if he didn't. We're both under eighteen and it was going really well, but then that happened and now, although we still want to talk to each other like we did before, it seems like everything is so strained and forced. It's killing me because I have depression and anxiety and furthermore, my best friend (Who helped him ask me out) is constantly telling me how he feels...I admit to getting a little jealous that they still talk normally, but not too much.I need advice on what to do next in this situation
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (3 February 2017):
 Your mental health is more important than any boy, so please talk to your doctor about it and ask for therapy. Believe me, mental health issues can last a lifetime and most romances don't, so seeking help for that needs to be a priority. Taking care of yourself is an important part of growing up and being more mature.
As for him, I'm not saying there's something bad about you or your relationship, but most parents don't make threats like that for no reason. Either she feels she has a valid reason or he's making it up. Until he's old enough and financially stable enough to move out, he needs to obey her rules and that means you do too, in regards to him.
I know it's horrible to experience heartache, but I promise it'll get better and you just need to give it time. Please see your doctor about your depression and anxiety because they can worsen if left untreated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2017): First and foremost what you need to do next is; sort out your mental health issues because all you're ever going to bring to any relationship you have, is your ongoing depression and anxiety? So, what Mother would want those issues for her Son to deal with, be he under 18 or not?
Please realise that getting professional help will benefit you and any relationship in the long run as no boyfriend is designed to be a therapist. It makes you needy, consumed with drama and any guy (BF) will feel mentally drained.
Free yourself and focus on the big picture. There's no need to place your total happiness into this one guy just at the moment, as he too is young and inexperienced about these issues/situations.
Meanwhile go and get proper help, as depending on others for your happiness is not a real relationship for you or for them?
Perhaps this timing has come as an early wake up call for you... to become more aware of what should be important - your mental health?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (2 February 2017):
 If he wants to continue to live under his parents' roof, then he needs to abide by their rules. We can't have everything we want in life and sometimes have to compromise.
Do you know why his parents are so against your relationship? If the relationship was meant to be, he will wait until he can date you again. I know it will have been very intense between you, but most relationships started so early in life will eventually fizzle out as you both mature and change.
Are you getting help for your depression and anxiety problems? If not, you need to try as this could make a huge difference to how you handle this whole situation.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 February 2017):
 What is his mother's problem with you?
If it's something you can change or fix, my best advice would be to WISH him well and move on.
And seek help for the depression and FOCUS on yourself and your mental health for now.
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