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writes: I've been dating a really sweet guy for 8months now. Everything's been going really well, untill his mother moved in with him a month ago, due to financial constraints on her side. She's always in my face when I'm there and she makes subtle comments to make me aware that she does not approve of our relationship. I have spoken to him about it and he confronted her. She, obviously, told him her comments were not meant in that way. But my gut tells me otherwise, because it has'nt stopped and it never happens in front of him. I've mentioned it to him again, but he feels I'm still not over the initial "hang up" and she has accepted me.I still feel very uncomfortable going to his place, but I do not want to offend him by telling him his mom still makes me feel uncomfortable, and since she's been here we haven't been spending much time together.It's quite frustrating as we both have very demanding jobs and the nicest way to relax is spending time with him - alone.How do I confide in him (2nd time around), that I would like for us to spend more time -alone- together, and that she still makes me feel uncomfortable, without seeming like a paranoid nag?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice, Mystic helper. Someone else also told me to speak to his mom about it directly. I will I'm sure, just need to build up the courage as I'm not very confrontational, and take it from there.
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reader, mystic_helper +, writes (3 May 2006):
So nicely turn to her and say I love your son and I'm gonna be here for a while. Please accept us and I'm sorry if you cant, but I'm happy and i wanna make a go of things with him. I'm willing to be nice, please meet me half way. explain you get that shes concerned for her son, but that your personal life is personal but you would aappreciate her input when you need it
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