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writes: Can any men give me some insight?A seperated man at work is under stress missing his wife who has been gone 18 months. As I have suffered loss of a loved one I have been his supporting him and grown very attached to him. I am seperated from my husband and do not wish to become too involved, but currently enjoy his professional friendship. He is senior to me and he often makes me linger by showing me things on his computer, or looks longingly at me as I leave. He has made comments like 'I did not sign it all so you had to stay longer', and he trusts me with personal information on his feelings. We have never had a date or anything but I cannot understand why, he behaves this way when we are on our own at work, but when I text or email him (with nothing even personal) he has stopped replying. I am not talking about many messages, maybe one in a couple of weeks. I accept he is probably confused over his feelings, but why would he show interest at work, but ignore innocent communication by non-verbal means?He used to reply, but then he stopped, yet when we are face to face there is that rapport and eye contact that tells me he is genuine, even if we are not ready to move on.Any ideas?
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (12 March 2006):
 You 'do not wish to become too involved' so does it really matter if he is honest in his rapport at work or over email?
You're both in a hard time in your life, craving the attention and support you're sharing with each other. Yet take it as it is, a friendship. After the dust settles and both of you are legally free then start asking questions. To get involved more then that before divorce is not very wise legally, emotionally, or ethically.
BRAVO to you for keeping a level head and not getting involved during this time. So don't give that up wondering what he is doing, it doesn't matter.
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