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writes:Does this seem right to u. My boyfriend gos out on lads nite out. But then i find that some of his mates girlfriends go too! I dont live in the same town but only 30 mins away! Hes a manager of a footie team and they r having a big allday drinking day out to celebrate their success. But im not invited! Cos he says i dont know anyone! But i no some other girls r going. He has friends as girls he lives in a small town and its like a big celebration! Im so hurt cos i always wanna go and celebrate with him. Its the same when the summer comes he plays cricket allday he dont invite me to watch. But i know other girls go! He just says its a lads thing. And yet i find out later other girls hes talked too! I feel he feels ashamed of me or something. Why wouldnt u want too be with someone u apprently love! Its like he dont care how it makes me feel. It bloody hurts and i thinking do i want to be with someone who dont include me. Its like he want to be single and chat the women up? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tweetybird828  +, writes (5 May 2009):
OMG tetll him how it makes you feel and if he doesnt change..... well.... sorry but he is a big jerk. If he doesnt change break up with him and i am sure you will find someone who repects you!!!
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX,
kayleigh
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): Either a: your his piece on the side or b: he has one or c: he's looking for one! Stop wasting your time and leave him.
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reader, domains3  +, writes (5 May 2009):
First, ask yourself a couple questions. When you and your boyfriend do go out together, how do you get along with each other? Does he take off to talk to other people, are you comfortable with that? Does he feel like he is forced to stay at your side when you go out together? Do you argue about each others behavior when you go out together? He sounds like he is a very social guy, that loves to hang with his buddies and not want to have to worry about if you are having a good time or not. I am not saying this is acceptable behavior but it might explain why he doesn't invite you. If you are very social and don't need him to constantly pay you attention when out, then let him know that and force the issue to prove it to him. If he sees that you can manage being on your own in his circle of friends and have a good time then he may lighten up on his lads only policy. If you do argue when out, it isn't fun for either of you. If none of this applies to your situation, then he is just being a guy, whose thoughtless and inconsiderate and would rather not have you watching his behavior too closely. Which leads to the question, what is he doing that he doesn't want you to see? All of these questions may apply to your situation or none of them. Only you can answer those for yourself. Hope this helped somehow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): Sweetie,he is leading a single lifestyle. I would bet all the money in the queens dresser that those women do not even know he is dating. You obviously have been dating for some time so that rules out "waiting to see if it works before bringing yet another home scenario", So my advise let him know how it is, what you think and if the answer is not "im sorry im an inconsiderit jerk and of course your welcome to come with me" then you know your answer don't you?your not invited because - your not invited...! At least not with him (hint, hint) Get the nerve stand up and say what you feel and then make a decision...good luck
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (5 May 2009):
 I would go mad if it was my boyfriend!!! Tell him how you feel and if nothing changes then dump him, he's obviously leading a single lifestyle!x
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