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writes:hey aunts...i need you to help me decifer something...my friend and i are trying to understand why his girlfriend continues to work a 3rd shift job. she has worked on and off 3rd shift for almost 10yrs. he is very upset at the fact that she does this and has asked her to change several times.she recently got laid off and coincidentally got another 3rd shift job. he asked her not to and even told her he would pay her the difference if she could just get a 1st shift job. sadly to say she didn't...the thing that worries me is when she's at work he'll is with another woman and i believe he is fallen for the other woman. it kind of works out for him because when his girlfriend gets off the other woman goes to work...and she's sleep all day so he doesn't really spend any quality time with her...he's spending most of his time with the other woman...i know he would prefer to be with his girlfriend seeing as they've been together for 10yrs (no kids)but im not sure what to advise him in all this...could some one of experience in relationships give me some advice to give him????please????????????????????????/
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell if she honors her relationship with him then she should consider his feelings about not being able to see her because of her job...this has been an issue for years...i'm beginning to think she doesn't care...
overall they BOTH should be willing to change one's wants and comprimise to an answer. he has accepted her working 3rd shift on and off for 10yrs...maybe he will continue to accept it (obviously)...but he will also continue to be with the other woman all evening and all night while she's at work......
oh well...i think this kind of situation will fix itself after a while...if you know what i mean...either he'll get caught or they will have a mutual split...
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 January 2009):
Why should she change her job if she is happy there?
And why is it acceptable for him to cheat on her?
If he's not happy in the relationship then he can end it and be free to go off with another woman.
Good Luck!! xx
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