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writes:I really like a guy in my year at school, but sometimes I hate him so much!It all started at the begining of the year, I was new, and he seemed REALLY into me. All the signs pointed that he liked me, he was always talking to me and smiling and touching me randomly like on the shoulder, teasing and flirting almost non stop. I was invited to a party he had with just him and a few of his guy mates and he and his best friend were really sweet and I had a great time.Me and my classmates and him go to a dance course, learning ballroom dancing, we change partners every song though so no one has a permanent partner.So there was a big ball coming up, and we had to have a partner. The boys had to ask the girls, so we girls were left waiting for the boys to ask us. We like to talk over who might, and everyone seemed convinced that this guy would ask me, they insisted that his best friend had said he was interested and it was apparently really obvious that he was. Naturally I was phyched, and quickly told 2 friends that I liked him. So imagine my surprise when instead his best friend asked to be my partner, the same who had said that his friend was interested in me. Since that he (the guy I like) started acting weird, ignoring me or being cold, completely changed. Since the ball, sometimes he's nice and other times mean. Can you help? Whats his problem, because I really like him and its tearing me apart!!!
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reader, myp  +, writes (16 August 2007):
 no it was perfect, it wasnt crap at all. :] dont be scared, it sounds as though hes just as nervous as you, so take a deep breath and relax. I truly wish u the best of luck, and ur absolutely welcome. :)let me kno how it goes-Myesha
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, i will ask him next time i see him or talk to him (on the internet, i mean to say) its just so hard to say!!! But how does this sound:
"Hey, whats up with you? You were ignoring me for ages, and now you´re talking again. Whats up?"
ohhhh that was crap wasnt it???? ahhhhhhh i´m scared!
and thanks so so much for all your help ^-^
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reader, myp +, writes (15 August 2007):
he sounds confused, with you and himself, if ur leaving at the end of the year then u really have nothing to lose tell him how u feel and if he doesnt like you the same way then at least youll kno. If you cant ask why hes ignoring you then ask him why his behavior is so hot and cold? trust me we all wish we could read our guys minds but unfortunately im not psychic and im going to assume your not :]if u guys had a good converstion then hes obviously interested in who u are as a person, and he said he wished u could stay, meaning he doesnt want u to leave, perhaps he hopes too have some kind of future with you...confusing boys are the worst to deal with because then u feel discombobulated lol, which is why you have to be completely straight forward, if u assume you kno what hes thinking and act upon a wrong assumption then u could have messed up a good thing which is why i keep tellin u to ask him "whats up?" Honesty is always an important variable in any kind of relationship...-Myesha
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i haven't asked yet- he was his normal ignorant self at school today, but then me and a friend went swimming and met up with with him and a bunch of his friends and it was good, he slowly got more and more at ease with me, and we ended up actualy having a good conversation. he even said in deustch* how he thinks its stupid how i gotta go home at the end of the year and how my real parents should come to germany so i can stay. then on the way home i fell off my bike and was bleeding and him and another of my friends (girl) were very sweet and stayed and helped me till my parents picked me up.
that was the most time we had talked and the most attention he´s given me for a looong time. so whats his game? whats with this off and on behaviour? hes so confusing, if i could only read his mind. and now i cant accuse him of ignoring me too, unless, he starts again.
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reader, myp +, writes (14 August 2007):
i doubt he hates you, theres really no valid reason and that seems more than a bit extreme[eek]. Perhaps he was nervous, u wont kno until u ask... i kno that seems mortifying but if u ask in a confident charming way then u wont look or feel as vulnerale.-Myesha
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for answering, but i should probably add that this guy i like (lets call him Alex, and his friend Mark) asked another of my friends before Mark asked me. weird huh? I mean everyone was so convinced and then when it came down to it hes asked someone else. Could i have done something to turn him off? Could one of my friends i told told him so he got scared away??? ó.ò but i will ask him if he is ignoring me on ICQ today, at school he acted like i wasn't there, not even looking at me. Could he hate me?
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reader, myp +, writes (12 August 2007):
Ask him what his problem is? maybe he thinks that since u danced with his friend for the ball that u like his friend more than him. U just need to communicate, if u like him tell him how u feel, it seems to me that everyone knows but him, and hes the one that counts.best of luck,message me if you want to talktell me how it goes :]-Myesha
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