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writes:i need as much as help i can get. My boyfriend and i have been going low for sometime now. If i would talk about my own effort in this relationship, i'll say my effort has not been much. He complains about me a lot, he tells me to my face that i've not been puttin any effort. The problem here is the amount of time we spend together, i've been facin a lot of challenges of goin to his place, i can't really tell if im scared of his siblins or if im shy to go there. I don't really know wot he has been tellin his friends and cousins because anytime i take that route to school n any of them is outside, they give me this wierd stare that makes me scared and shy @ the same time. I dont know to think anymore. The last time i told him wot i had been observin he simply pushed it off sayin i didn't want to come to his place. At this point im confused. My question is im i puttin up an issue where there is no issue, and do i have to care about wot his family think about me, if yes why since he is just my boyfriend. He's beginnin to act strange
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2013): Well, if continuing the relationship is unhealthy and uncomfortable for you i say stop it.
You need a break.
People can be very unfair sometimes, its not you who's wrong, there must be something on how they stare that makes you feel uncomfortable to the point that you asked for help why they acted that way.
its not because your just paranoid. I know it because i have that experienced before. I had a fling whom I am very attracted with.
He has the most gorgeous eyes and smile I've ever seen.
All was well and thought that maybe we could be serious.
Little did i know that Mr gorgeous came from a a very rich family.
I never thought that he could be that rich, because he never mention anything, though I can tell by the number of his cars that his family is well off. but i never thought super well off.
By accident while having a dinner date with him, his sister and mom was at the same restaurant were eating, so he have no choice but to introduced me to his mom and sister, they joined us.
It was so horrible. they keep asking me things that i am not familiar with, asked about my family, my work, almost everything. The worst is I am just dating his son, were not yet exclusive but I felt like I am being measured by the way the questions was ask to me, the stare that makes me feel like i am a property being evaluated.
Thank goodness, the dinner ended, and i told him the next day, we should stop seeing each other. He said no, he enjoys my company but I said, i don't enjoy his, even if i really did. I lied to him just to push away.
i force myself to stop liking him because his out of my league, it was hard but eventually he stops calling and asking me out.
The issue is, your not comfortable, you should care about what his family thinks because at this point and time your still both young. Love can wait.
If your meant to be together fate will bring you back to each other. if you continue with it, its either you hurt each other, and just broke up anyway or he just might take advantage of you, play with your feelings and just break up in the end.
Either way, someone gonna hurt someone's feelings.
So, be wise. Choose what is better for you.
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