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writes:Please someone help...........the man that i have been dating 2yrs 9 months is 68 yrs old. i am 64. he broke up with me in july but we have started seeing each other again. he is afraid to tell his selfish family. when i go over to his house in his car i have to lay down in the back seat so none of his neighbors will see me because there is one woman that will call and tell his daughter. we are limited as to which resturants we eat at because someone may see us and tell his family. his high school reunion is next week and i cannot go because when we were broken up he made arrangements with his sister and her husband to stay with them and of course they think we are still broken up. about 2 weeks ago his 39 year old son saw us together and he called his dad and asked who was with him. my man told him no one. later that evening his son call and told his father off by saying you are lying to me and that is not right. the son promised to not tell anyone. his daughter is pregnant with her 2nd child and she will go off the deep end if she finds out. both of his kids are on depression medication. they both are very dependent on their father and he is a man that has never allowed them to grow up. his daughter is 35 yrs old. my family is very supportive and my five children are very independent and successful. in fact my children (all married) intimidate his children. his children have never wanted us to do anything with my kids. he refuses to tell his kids that we are back together and he will not tell the rest of his family. yesterday he went to his daughter house for a cookout and i couldn't go because they do not know that we are back togeter. please tell me what to do. if i have someone else to date i would. when you get in your 60's there are not many available. please help.....thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): a 60 year old hiding in the back seat of a car. Where is your pride this was not the time to swallow it. Find a man you may love him, but if he doesn't love you enough to stand up to the children he raised. Then let him go it may hurt at first least it beats being in a hurtful relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): I see you posted this question again on September 18. I responded to that, but am going to respond to this as well.
This man has no backbone, to refuse to tell his family he is dating you again.
You should DUMP his sorry @$$!!
Yes, when a woman gets older it isn't so easy to find available men. But believe me, they're out there. Retirees who are widowed or divorced, and wishing to find a nice, caring, attractive woman.
I know whereof I speak. I just turned 68 and after dating several different guys since being widowed, and starting six years ago, I am now in a relationship with a nice, caring considerate man (he's just turned 65). He contacted me on Senior Friend Finder and we've been dating since February of this year.
I won't say I didn't have to do a lot of looking prior to that, however! You need to be persistent.......its not as if we're in our twenties any more and there are lots of men out there.......but not impossible! I encourage you to look at other profiles.
You can do better than this loser!!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 You said: if i have someone else to date i would. when you get in your 60's there are not many available.
That said it all. Firstly, just becuase there are not that many out there is no reason to continue being unhappy. You may be unhappy alone, but you will be unhappier with him (sounds like). What I can tell you that once you break it off, you will have the time to make efforts towards finding someone new to date. That will balence things out for you.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (17 September 2007):
This bloke needs to whip his family into line, they are running rings around him. I can only say what I would do in this situation although I have to wait another 25 years to catch up in age.
I would tell this miserable family to button their ideas up - keep out of my personal life or they would all find themselves written out of the last will and testament.
Failing that telling them if they begrudge me a little happiness at this time of life then they can all put their heads where the sun don't shine.
As for the high school reunion - isn't there a hotel or a motel you could stay in for the duration so you wouldn't have to involve his relatives?
His children sound as if they have been thouroughly spoiled throughout their lives and it sounds like he is lacking the backbone to stand up to them.
The alternative - assuming you still want to be with this guy would be to cut off links with his family and spend more time hanging about with your family as they seem so much better balanced and show more signs of compassion and intelligence.
Then again if he is refusing to do this or refusing to put his family in line over this one is a guy with a big yellow streak down his back the type of guy that you want to go out with?
Granted there may be a lack of availability in the senior age bracket but it is not a non availability. Many a guy out there that has made it to rtetirement and have much more get up and go about them than this guy has.
I for one sit here wondering if his get up and go has just got up and went.
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