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writes:i have been with my partner for 6 months and love him dearly, we have both been seriously hurt by past relationships, his ex wife left him for some one else after 26 years and my ex used to beat and threaten me.what is bugging me now is that his ex wont leave us alone. she has acquired my home telephone number and uses ut and also she texts him regularly, usually to slag me off, she insists that he's my meal ticket for my 3 children, he isnt. He seems very reluctant to do anything about her, because of their 4 children age ranging from 28 to 16. She also calls in the middle of the night when i'm there. how can i convince him that he has to do something about her.
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reader, Jewels Gems +, writes (16 March 2008):
Reading between the lines it appears he doesnt have any problem with any of these events & how his lack of concern is in fact adding & therein making this a bigger an bigger problem in your eyes ! In effect he is showing a lack of loyalty & support in his disregard towards the feelings of "His Current Partner - yourself !" Which to his estranged family will be blatantly obvious by his silence. I am sorry if my observations ad to your distress but it seems to me you have already been treated negatively by your ex partner and deserve better for your future. Dont settle for less through fear of never meeting "HIM" & being alone, as folks all to often do. And we all have baggage & ex's (there would be a bigger problem if meet someone who hasnt any!?! when over 25+ it isnt any excuse for his lack of a backbone ! You know deep down, how real Love is expressed in feelings & actions (& wouldnt have to be told) YOUR FEELING UPSET should be Horizontial Joe's First concern ..END OF.... His "kids" are hardly CHILDREN All above age of dependancy now so there's No Need for ANY contact from Cruella at all So why is this even happening.YOU Tell him what you need to be said, done & to whom if he is commited to you. Doesnt have to mean angry arguements but done reasonably as adults.... Only you know what you need him to be babe. So tell him ! After all he is a bloke so cant MULTI Task ... Good luck keep us updated ..... XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wish it were that simple. She's a bitch of the first order. She now has my mobile number aswell as my house number. The youngest child provided it for her when he was away. Their youngest daughter has been totally turned against me, and she insists that the 2 elder ones dislike me too, this turned out to be untrue. I would change my numbers but I only changed them 4 months ago because of my ex harrassing me. I know that he loves me he more than proves it, and the children wouldnt abandon him, although his youngest is being lured by expensive gifts, so why wont he tell her to go bug some one else
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reader, Ileana +, writes (10 August 2007):
 If she is bothering you that much YOU can get a restraining order, however her children are a different story. Change your house phone number and ask him and the kids not to tell her. If all else fails sit her down and ask her whats going on and how you can fix it.
Hope i helped
Love
Ileana.
xxxxx
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reader, puzzled  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 hey hun, it seems his ex wife is completly jealous of what you both have, you should sit your partner down and talk it out whats bothering you. See what he has to say, his probley thinking about his kids in the situation and worried he might lose them. But at the end day remember your with him not her :)
hope i helped a bit..
Love Puzzled:)xxx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Tell him you are changing your home phone number and would appreciate his not telling her. He shouldn't feel reluctant to do anything about her badgering because of his kids, all but one is an adult. What can the ex do to him? Change that number however.
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