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writes:Ok, so I don't usually visit these sites, but I'm really In need of some honest advice, I am 34, and and engaged to be married next year, my fiance is 33,we got together about 3 years ago, I knew he had a past and a rep for being a bad boy, but it was just fun to start with, anyway we got serious and fell in love, he moved in with me, but I always had a feeling something wasn't right, on a Monday night he would go to a martial art club, one night he came back, and his ex's car was right behind him ( turns out she lived opposite me) so he came in, and went on fb, immediately after signing in I could see he had a pm, but he moved the screen so I couldn't see it, I dint know why, but I felt weird about it, so demanded to see it, it was his ex that had just followed him into the close, it said ' love you' I went mental, anyway to cut a long story short it turns out he had never told ANY of his ex's to back off, I gave him an ultimatum, me or them, he chose me. But I never feel like I can't trust him, a few times his ex's have messages him, and give him credit he has told me, but I hate it, well, just recently one of his ex's (where we work) has stopped talking to me, and I've caught her making eyes at him, and vice versa, he says it's all in my head, but I can see it, today they were standing next to each other and he made a silly noise I have never heard hin make befor, and she just burst out laughing, I asked him what the joke was but he said I was making a show of myself, I am fuming! He's making me feel like I'm going mad, please help! :(
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 December 2011):
 You feel like you are going mad because he is making you feel like you are going mad. He is making you feel like it is all in your head and he is very good at worming his way out of situations. He feels like he has you wrapped around his little finger and he thinks he can walk all over you and make you think that you are just being paranoid. I think you know that deep down he is not being completely straight with you and you should follow your gut instinct. He is obviously being flirty with these girls, I cannot say if he is cheating on you or not, but something is dodgy. Maybe seek some therapy with him or else just accept you cannot trust him, he is a bit of a bad boy and end the relationship. Believe me it will be his loss for messing you around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): He is a serial cheater and with this, he's highly abusive. He cannot honour his word. You can't trust him because he is unable to be a trustworthy man.
Get some couples counselling to have a REF on hand and also a witness to see and gage if this man is even worth your time and efforts let alone love and trust. Counselor will better be able to assess if he is a narcissist. If he he is; you best be moving on.
Serial cheaters have no remorse for what they do. And will cheat again and again as SEX is their drug.
Please read over the links provided. Arm yourself with knowledge and KNOW you are not along and just whom you fell in love with. (more an idea and not really the man at your side)
http://mfgmarriage.com/extra-marital-affairs-serial-cheater/
http://www.leftos.com/relationships/cheating/questions/853-serial-cheating-cheaters-want-to-give-us-insight
http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art21445.asp
Hang in there!
*hugs*
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