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writes: Okay Cupid, I have one for you. I have been dating this guy for almost two months that I met in my Orchestra last semester. We connected right off the bat, my only concern at the time is that he had broken up with his ex-girlfriend two months prior. This would not be a big deal, except that they have been off/on for about five years, more off than on. Apparently she has a lot of mental problems and he finally couldn't deal with it anymore. Myself, I am currently separated, trying to get a divorce from an abusive man (we have not been together for 1 1/2 but because of financial reasons he still stays here occasionally), so I understand strange situations, but what he told me tonight, I don't know how to react. He was upset on Friday because I went out with some friends to a "foam" party, although I invited him and he didn't go, I guess he was still pretty upset, but he didn't call me for a week, in fact, he never returned a single phone call, he showed up to rehearsal instead. To get to the point...after catching up while driving, while we are standing by his car he tells me that his ex called him and told him that she was four months pregnant..so of course he went to her...then less than 36 hours later, she had a miscarriage. Apparently they were considering some pill that ends it before six months, but being a mother myself, I prefer to not even think these exist. Well, I don't know how to react to this, he has a lot of history with her already, and he is going to be there for her to help her get through this, but he wants to be with me. In addition, my period should be coming any day now and we are wondering if I may be pregnant. How do I proceed? I am at a loss here! I was so depressed over him not responding because he is the type to close up, yet so am I, but I persisted. Please Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2005): Sounds to me like she pretended she was pregnant to tug at his heart strings then 'conveniently' had a miscarriage once she had got his attention. Although he may want to comfort her in her time of need, his priority now is YOU. Obviously he may be upset that his child was miscarried but he should be talking to you about it, not her. Be thankful that she isnt pregnant anymore and set him an ultimatum, you or her. remember however, you have only known each other 2 months so he may still see things as casual with you especially if he had problems in his last relationship.
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