A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Please help!!!Guy let me down last night saying he was too ill to go out but i believe he was out when he called me later..i asked what was wrong said felt depressed but not sure why..i said im here to help if you want me too..he agreed he did but not very convincingly...then i said i would leave him alone then I just got back got to go, text you in a bit...He did text me and i have ignored them one said are you ok then another whats happening...i have heard nothing today and not sure if i should contact..im not ignoring i just feel he let me down last night and never made any other arrangments then went out anyway drinking with mates...i said i would give him space and i think he needs it as also told me did not know what he wanted...but i dont want him to think im not here for him as i do think he has issues with depression, he tells me he feels sad all the time and gets panic attacks and im the only person he has told..but his depression is ruining everything for us too, i cant keep doing all the work, im going thorugh a difficult time too and he is adding to it...I really like this guy just dont know how to play it, contact or no contact that is the question...
View related questions:
depressed, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, rcn  +, writes (7 June 2008):
 He needs to see a doctor. Depression is one thing, anxiety is another, but depression with anxiety can be fairly dangerous. He needs to seek treatment.
Let me fill you in on something. I have major depressive disorder. About 8 years ago, I was a motivational speaker, and one of my beliefs was medication was not needed when someone is depressed. Saying positive things to yourself could change your mood. That's true, until I began studdying the off balance of neuro transmitters. I am on medication. I was at a suicidal level depression, and even though I would self speak positive sayings, I would continue to decrease in my mood.
Sometimes medication is needed, not to be a permanent solution, but as a helper while one works on going from being off balance to getting back on track.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): Okay, I don't know if you are just dating, or if you are in a relationship, but personally, it sounds like dating, in which case, I suggest, after all the text messages he send last night, (and as you mentioned you like him and want to be there for him) send him a message just stating "hope you are feeling better today" and take it from there.Maybe this guy needs professional help with his depression, be careful that you do not become like a "crutch" to him, only there when he needs you!Surely you want a normal healthy relationship and see to it that you get that! If you did not like the guy and did not want to have any future contact ignore it and him.Best of luck!
...............................
|
