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writes: Dear Cupid,What can I do when I'm in love with a guy who is not appreciated by his girlfriend?I'm 17,and in love with a guy that is 21 and has a girlfriend my age. He told me that she has hurt him, and doesn't know how to appreciate him. He also told me that he didn't think things would last between them. He's so sweet and I love him, and would appreciate him for who he is. I think he likes me, but then again I'm not so sure. He's really polite, and my parents love him. I wish I could be with him, so I could protect him from everything that would want to hurt him. I would never hurt him. He doesn't know what I feel, because I'm afraid that he'll reject me. Please tell me what to do, and don't tell me to move on because, I've tried to but I can't (believe me I've tried many times.) :'(
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (5 January 2006):
 It sounds like this guy regards you as a good friend, since he is confiding in you about his relationship troubles with his current girlfriend. He trusts you and feels comfortable talking about his problems with you.
You could try telling him that you feel more than friendship for him, but I don't think that this would be a good idea at the moment. I think that he needs to make a decision about his current relationship first, on his own terms. If he decides to break up with his girlfriend, then you could certainly tell him how you feel and see how he responds.
It seems that you two definitely have potential because you are already such good friends. Some of the best love relationships begin as friendships. You just don't want to get in the middle of his current relationship because it would not be right, and he needs to make that call on his own.
Good luck!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (5 January 2006):
 I can see you really care about this guy and don't want this girl to hurt him ever again. This situation could either turn out very simple or very complicated but I think the first thing to do is talk to him. Ask him how he feels about her at the moment and how he feels about you, whether he thinks anything could ever happen between you two.
I know you only want to protect him but if he does like/love this girl, then it could get complicated. Sometimes, people just can't let go of the things that hurt them most. You can't do anything until you tell him how you feel and get all this off your chest. If he says nothing could happen, there's your answer. If he leaves it open, then go for it!!!
Good luck.
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