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writes:Ok cutting a long story short. After waiting 4 long years, where I saw this bloke on and off but knowing there was no relationship as such, although always had the feeling he thought more of me than he would say. Then giving up on him. He emailed me saying "Hope you are well i write this note to say sorry for being a total bastard to you i am so very sorry i find it hard to except when some is being nice to me and that its all going to go wrong.short and sweet but wanted to say what was on my mind take care." We got together properly. He moved in with me last March. In 2009 Christmas he never gave me even a card, saying he was so busy packing to move it slipped is mind. February 13th 2010 had his leaving do and I left him a Valentines card but never got one in return. Again saying he was so sorry felt bad but had so much on his mind with the move. But between then and May 2010, he certainly made up for it with loving texts, emails, and writing on my facebook. Then from that date till now nothing. Last week because our relationship was not good, I wrote it all down, including all the loving things he had done and sent me and asked why it had all stopped. We spoke about it and hopefully, I thought we could get back on track. Valentines day today and all I got when he went to work was "Happy Valentines love you x". I had put a card on his pillow, but I take it he never saw it. I also dedicated a song from youtube to his facebook page. which his would have been notified on his mobile. I have missed so much out finding it hard to keep this short, but long and the short I dont feel he loves me.
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reader, Wheeler  +, writes (15 February 2011):
 It seems to me there is a lot more to this story.You seem to imply several times that the two of you live together still, as you had access to his pillow and all. Yet you also state that from "that date till now nothing". And that you two lost contact. You also said something about him moving?So, in many ways this sounds like a long-distance relationship as you two are e-mailing each other, yet you left a card on his pillow.What is the exact situation, or what has been your status with him over 2010? Did you all live together and then he moved, and if so what caused that separation?It just seems like there is more to the story that makes no sense. How could you two be in a relationship and yet not talk for months and still be in a relationship?You also seem very savvy with the internet and facebook, so kudos for that.Another thing that confused me was that he sent you a message in the beginning of the relationship saying how sorry he was for how badly he had treated you. What had he done that was so bad before the two of you even started a relationship? It seems odd that he would be so sorry if he had just not made it a point to talk to you at times when he saw you about.I would have to say, knowing as little as I do about the nature of your relationship, that it certainly seems like you are not a priority in his life. Or, at the least, his perception of the relationship was drastically different from yours. If you are in a long-term relationship with someone, even if it is rocky at times, you are going to at least get them a gift at Christmas, or remember a card on Valentine's Day. Maybe if you two had been married for 30 years it would be possible for him to have forgotten a Valentine's Day or two, but not Christmas, and not if you two are in the beginning stages of a serious relationship. Especially if you are living together.If he does love you, he has some serious issues with showing it.
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