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writes:I am in love with my partner but his ex came up to me the other day and said that he beat her, got her in in debt, pregnant, etc. He says it's all lies and that she wants him back. They have been split up for 2 years. What do I do? I also have a son thats 2, from a previous relationship.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 I wouldn't believe a word of it until you see the proof for yourself. You've been with him long enough to know if he has that type of abusive personality or not. If you haven't seen him act like that, and he doesn't seem to be a "user" then I would chalk it up to her trying to break the two of you up so she can have a stab at him again. Be very cautious of whatever an "ex" tells you -- it's usually going to be maliciously driven.
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (10 August 2007):
 I'm guessing you don't know his ex like you do him. What she could be telling you is all lies just because she want's him back. It's strange though isn't it? He supposedly put her in debt and beat her yet she wants him back. Sounds kinda fishy to me like she's trying to steal him off of you.I think you should trust you boyfriend before you trust an ex trying to get revenge.Hope this helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): There might be some truth to what she is saying. But if you really love him and if he has been nothing but a gentleman to you than you should believe him and stay with him. Let people say whatever they want. You should trust him. However, if he has shown signs of being this way then get out while you can.
But don't discount what she says, I mean there are two sides to a story. But it's just unusual and sketchy what she is doing. And he has no better explanation than simply that she wants him back? It could be true. But that's not a very nice thing to say about an ex girlfriend, even if it were true. I don't know. Be careful.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (10 August 2007):
Hi,
If you have been with him for a while and he isn’t violent at all, and he hasn’t been trying to spend all your money, then I would be sure that she is lying to you. If you haven’t been together long, then just put what she has said to the back of your mind and enjoy your relationship. If he ever does hurt you, you would want to get out anyway, whatever she had said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): If he isn't violent & abusive towards you then i'd ignore her, she's just trying to put you off him because she wants him back!!
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reader, sweeite +, writes (10 August 2007):
i think that either one of them can be lying, but the only thing i can say is that if you trust your bf then you sud believe wat his saying but it dont mean you have to forget what his ex gf is saying, his ex mite just b saying that because she mte want him bk as sum ex's cn b very horrible towards the gf now. all i can say is believe what your heart is tellimg you if u believe your boyfriend then dont let the ex get in the way. gud luck hunny take care. xxx
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