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36-40,
*ingle gal
writes:i have recently started a dating 1 year younger than me. it all started casual and now has turned really serious. i finished school and i m about to move to a new town to start working. he is now so insecure with the move, he feels like he will lose me to 'working' people as he is still a student. how do i make him see that i only want him and not them. it is putting a strain in our relationship
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reader, EyesofJag  +, writes (20 September 2011):
That's a tough one.I had a girlfriend who would start to tell me that I would cheat on her because since I'm a professional dancer and am surrounded by women all the time, that I will end up cheating on her. I told her she has as much chance of cheating since you has male coworkers. Long story short, she ended up cheating on me with her coworker. That was several years ago.I'm not saying this will end up the same way, but it is hard to deal with so much insecurity. You just really have to show him that he means the world to you. Be careful though...if you overdo it, he may start acting hurt and aggressive. Example: if you call him every night at 8 but you miss one night, he may think that you're going out with someone else.Also, communicate that there is a chance that if the insecurity escalates, it will put a strain on a relationship that can lead to a breakup. My cousin couldn't take the insecurity of a similar situation, so she broke it off. He would very angrily claim that she did end up cheating. She never did, she just couldn't stand his insecurity anymore.
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