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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:HOw do you deal with being in a relationship where you don't see eachother very much? My boyfriend works ar night and on top of that he has other commitments. We do love andmiss eachother but there is nothing we can do now about this lack of time together.I love him but I have become very lonely and frustrated. that isn't helped by the fact that he finds it hard to sit down and actually discuss the situation ( well he is so extra busy anyway). He is taking extra hours as much as he can because of this credit crunch.We have been in this situation for one year. I amvery lonely and I miss him very much and somethimes I just can't handle my frustration. Is any of you in a similar situation? Should I leave this guy and find someone who is more available? OR should I hang on for him in the hope that soon enough we will talk and find a solution? SHuld I be smart here and cut my losses? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your encouraging words you make sense, and I do understand what you are saying, I do know it at some level.. it's just that it'sso hard... we've been like this for 7months.. There is no time to even talk about how we are meant to deal with this as a couple. Nothing. Ziltch. I feel, it's hard for him, but if he wants me he could feed me crumbs of love every now and then. I do love this guy and I would go to the end of the world with him but his lack of tryin gto kee our thing afloat really upsets me. I feel I would act differently in his situation, I'd be more loving.. but hey., I'm a woman. To be fair when I was working full time and studying part time in the past he used to complain that I never had time for him and I was so stressed ou t with the studies.. many a times I snapped at him to just deal with it. The stress was just too huge I didnt have space in my mind for anythign else apart from study. But still.. I feel I did give him enough love to get by. Aaaargh why is it so hard.. I am so glad you understand! You can';t imagine.
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