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writes:He's 37, I'm 24. He's married, unhappily I might add. So I would NEVER do anything. But, I have the feeling he has a thing for me. Based off of a few observations: - finds reasons to visit my department and talk to me for a long period of time - genuinely cares about me as a person and employee and career advancement- takes an interest in the music i listen to, by wanting to listen too - stares deeply into my eyes and gives a coy smile - teases me about my wardrobe, by comparing my outfits to outfits worn by famous characters like Rapunzel, Pocahontas, Morticia Addams - never gets mad at me or tells me not to something, that a manager would get upset about, such as listening to music, dress code violations...etc- has given me a nickname, that the whole store now knows me by - everyone in the store sees how he's always near me or in my department- i ve caught him looking at my legs, ****, shoulders - always jokes around with me about anything - always greets me, even if he already walked pass me, he'll reverse to say hi - remembers little things about me - shares his interests with me such as his favorite books, music, places to go, past experiences, issues with wife...etchere's 2 specific situations: i work in the mattress dept at my store. the other day, i was sitting on one of the mattresses, and he comes up, out of nowhere, hops on the bed, and lies down next to me. after that, he said, to the other employees around him, i'm going to do that every time she's there to make her uncomfortable." another time, was when he was helping me during my training of learning the new dept. He had me pretend to be the customer, and he, the sales associate. He had me lay on beds, in a dress. On one bed I was laying down on, and he was sitting right across from me, talking to me. I had to talk to him while peering over my breasts. What does this all mean? Does he like me or is it all in my head??!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 August 2016):
 See where his married roving eye got him??
Trust me, there are plenty of single guys out there who you don't work with that will fit the bill much better than being utterly unprofessional at work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you everyone. you are all completely right. i don't have to worry about developing feelings for him since he was terminated yesterday for poor performance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2016): its easy to ignore the wife factor when shes not around. its easy to flirt back when you assume youre both going home separately every night. and its easy for a guy to catch feelings when he spends more time at work around you then at home watering his grass. if it leads to more, its hard to end it without someone quitting their job, and one way to put up a road block would be to pretend you have met someone outside of work and are happily starting your own relationship assuming you dont want to verbally tell him to stop doing something youre not sure he is actually doing.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 August 2016):
Here's your answer:
If you were married to a man, if you loved him, how would you feel if he behaved with another woman in an identical manner?? Would it give you pause, as his wife, to see such interest in this other woman?
Have you ever stopped to think that maybe his behavior towards you and no doubt other women is the REASON why he's unhappily married? When you alienate affection from your spouse, the door is left wide open for this sort of behavior.
YOU are encouraging it because you love the attention. Yes, he's the boss and you're an employee, but that should mean that you need to be more professional and quit lying on mattresses with him. At the very least, you've put ideas in co-worker's brains that you might be sleeping your way to the top. Not cool and a double standard, but it happens.
You need to be professional and quit the flirting. Understand this the next time he's looking into your eyes - remember how he treats those he's vowed to love.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 August 2016):
 "he's married so I would NEVER do anything"
so if you would NEVER do anything why do you need to know if he likes you?
do you really need the validation from him? why does it matter to you what he feels? what do you hope to accomplish by figuring out if he likes you... will it change anything?
I didn't even read the laundry list of things he does/has done...it does not matter.
he could take you to a 5 star restaurant for lunch and declare his undying love for you.. it DOES NOT MATTER.
he's not available.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 August 2016):
 Who cares?
The guy is married.
All this spells TROUBLE for two people - YOU and his wife.
And honestly? IF the guy was OH SO unhappy in his marriage, why not divorce her and move on with life. In this day and age divorce isn't frowned upon, and RARELY do the wife gets to walk away with HALF of everything. No she is left with the kids and having to scramble to make THAT work.
Don't be so naive that a guy giving you a nickname means ANYTHING.
He sounds move like a pervy creep and if I had been in your shoes I would have told him off, more than once.
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