He's unfair to my kids and favors his own! Should I end this relationship?

A female age 36-40, *liyahnangelo writes:

I'm in a relationship with a man that I love. I have 2 children from a previous relationship and he has one child from a previous relationship. We live together and get along great most of the time. But lately I've been noticing some unpleasant things. He has been incredibly short tempered with my kids. But when his child comes around, she gets away with a lot more than my kids would. I've said things to him but he makes excuses like "well i don't get to see her everyday" or "well she doesn't get to do a lot of things at her mother's house" I should also mention that my children have an absent father, so there is no "other parent's house" for my kids. And he' will tell my daughter "no" for things and then tell his kid "yes" for the same thing. This is a constant argument between us. Not only this, but his daughter also starts a lot of arguments between her mother and her father, her mother and I, and her mother's boyfriend and her father. I have never seen a child be like this in my life. This amn wants me to marry him, but how can i do that when all of this is going on? I'm wondering if I'll ever make him realize that his favoritism is way out of hand, if he will change or keep making excuses. Or should I move on?

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