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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:He's told me that there are two things that will make him treat me well and one of those things is good sex.I have always let him know that he makes me feel amazing and makes me feel better physically than I ever have (it's true), and I have NEVER once said that someone else was superior to him in ANY way.But I get such mixed signals emotionally and verbally (he has told me how all of the 48 women he's been with have 'f*cked him better', that they're intelligent multi-lingual, had big chests and tighter p*ssies.Also, when I got home from work last night, i was exhausted because I was up until the wee hours of the night the night before helping him with a project for his work. I said that I really needed to get to sleep early because I felt like I was getting two ear infections. I immediately put on my pajamas and was getting ready to have a snack before getting into bed and he starts to interrogate me "he likes thongs?" I asked him who he was speaking about and he replied with "the guy you are always with, I knew it".Twenty minutes he tells me that I have to stay awake to help with continue the project for his work or he will find another girl in the building to help him and that I have to dedicate my work time at MY job to help him or else I am putting my work and my friends and my Life before him. :( i have no more fight left in me.I have hurt myself in the past because some of the things he has said to me have driven me so ultimately low that I see no out - although I know there is an out, I just can't emotionally get myself there. I have started seeing a therapist because of the things he says to me and how I let them affect me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): You have done the right thing by beginning therapy.
This guy is a controlling, sadistic, jerk!
He gains control by tearing down you self-esteem, and making you feel inferia.
You should get away from him ASAP! Be totally honest with your therapist! Don't sugar coat any of it! You need help getting away from him and your counsoler can guide you through it. But you have to be honest and explicit!
Good Luck!
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (8 April 2009):
 He doesnt love you, he just wants to dominate you. Meaning he wants a servant and a slave and he is verbally and emotionally abusing you to do it. You need to get out now and stay with family and friends and make sure this guy is gone for good. He sounds like he could get dangerous too so when you leave make sure he is not home and make sure there is always someone, preferably a big man, is with you. GET OUT NOW and never look back!!
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