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*issdaisy
writes:My boyfriend is an "recovering" addict/ alcoholic. He goes to the AAA meetings and everything. When he started to sober up, he made me promise not to drink. Which Im fine with, since, I never do it much anyways. He also, wanted to quit smoking. So I helped him through it. He quit cold turkey, and within 6 months he had only 3 slip ups. I was proud of him. Then one night, we got into a fight, and we broke up. About 2 days later we got back together. After being together for about a week, he revealed to me he has taken smoking back up. I was devastated. I told him that it hurt me so much to see him become addicted again, after he had recovered from drugs and alcohol. I told him he was better than that and he didnt need it. His response "I dont care, I like smoking, Im going to keep doing it."It might seem like somthing small to most people, but it means alot to me. Then, he promised he wouldnt do it in front of me, because it hurt me, and I have really bad lungs. But as time went by he went back on his promise again, and began smoking in front of me. He didnt care that I was in tears or anything. If he can go back on promises that easily, then maybe I shouldnt keep mine to him. I always bend over backward to keep my end of the deal, because if I dont, its the end of the world to him. Should I try to talk about it to him?
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reader, missdaisy +, writes (19 November 2008):
missdaisy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou asked what my boyfriend was put on probation. He was put on probation for drug abuse at school he used cocaine.
No one, to my knowlage was/is an addict in my family. So why I have this infatuation with his addictions I dont know.
Im scared if I leave him, he'll use again. Hes not one of those guys who just uses for the hell of it. Hes gone through alot within the past 5 years, like an abortion.
Ive tried to tell him that it hurts me, but he never says anything he just stays quiet.
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reader, Bryanz +, writes (18 November 2008):
You definatly first talk to him, if he won't respect and won't stop smoking. Then I agree with Fade878, he isn't worth it. Tell him that, tell him that he is hurting you and if he dosen't stop its best for you 2 to be over, because he's hurting you very bad.
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