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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi there, this worries me and I need some help, so apologies if this is really long!I'm 25, and my boyfriend's 28. We've been together for 4 years now - and our sex life's been good up to now.Recently he's become obsessed with becoming obese. He insists that obese people have better sex lives than the rest of us, and says "bigger is better!"To prove the bigger is better theory, he sold our Toyota Corolla and bought a large Chevrolet instead.I told him that obesity is bad for him, and would cause him pain and sadness, but he insisted I was being silly and said to me "Obesity is just a state of mind. You can be obese and happy. Look at Henry VIII. Wasn't he a happy obese dude??"Now he's started trying to become obese. He's been eating double portions of everything, and started exercising less.I told him it's not good, but he said that I knew nothing about obese people.He insists he won't have sex with me until he's obese. he said obesity means there's more to love, and being obese means you get more sex, and better sex (for guys!)How can I convince him to stop this idea of his?? I've tried talking to him, but it didn't work!We've had a good relationship until now!what should i do?? i spoke to a girlfriend about it who said i should leave him, but i love him and think this is just a fad or phase he's going through.how can I deal with this??
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Hi there babes,
You only have to watch TV now days to see how hard it is for obese people not only with getting out of bed but how it effects their relationships, they can't make love so why does he think big is better it just isn't....
He obviously has something wrong with him babes and you need to find out what it really is that is bothering him...
This must be extremly hard for you if he wont talk but hey you need to try if he really wont talk to you then maybe councilling will help.....
I hope you manage to sort this out babes
Take care let me know how you get on
Love Donnax
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reader, Dick Diva  +, writes (16 July 2007):
Sounds like a form of escapism. Adding layers between him and the world. hiding from. A way to push you and loved ones away. Being fat to be happy? Is he not happy now? What makes him think he needs to be happier?
These are questions I would ask him.
Perhaps he's just testing your love for him. It does sound odd though.
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