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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 months. I have broke up with him 2 times for mixed feelings like sometimes i would feel like i like him and want to be with him and other times i don't. I think about us lasting forever and i don't know if i will ever love him enough because he is SO nice and sweet and i'm not used to that. I had MANY bad relationships. My last boyfriend was VERY VERY controlling so maybe that has alot to do with this relationship. Sometimes, when he is with me, i don't think it's that i want him to leave but i think i get bored because we don't drive yet so we can't do much. I could sit here and cry because i want to be with him but i'm afraid i can't love him enough as much as he loves me or if i will ever love him. Sometimes i feel like i do though. He is perfect for me except these mixed feelings. I am 17 and he is 16. TONS of girls around my age say it's normal for this and it will pass. Well, what if it doesn't, what if i hurt him and he said he wants me to stay with him anyways for awhile to see if it passes because if we end it for good, we won't know what could have happened. Most of the time, when we kiss i get that spark or when he holds me. I know this may sound stupid, but sometimes i feel all fat and blah so i don't want to be touched or bothered so i think that happens alot and i make myself believe it's mixed feelings. I think we rushed things too fast and other people rushed us being together. He knows all about how i feel. Oh and those 2 times i broke up with him, i cried. I missed him and i felt lost and when i seen him for the first time the second time i broke up with him, i ran into his arms! I think alot of it has to do with he is younger but only by like 8 months and i picture myself with those types of guys who will hurt me, lie, or cheat and i could easily fall in love. It's because that is what i am used to. Maybe i am in love or close to it and can't see it because i'm not used to a perfect relationship. Another thing, i don't know if it was mixed feelings or if i just felt bored with the relationship because when we were out doing things i did feel better or at his house. We should be getting our license next month so hopefully we can do more. It's not like we see each other alot either because he is always working. but we do the same thing mostly all the time so that could be 98% of my problem. Help me please!
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reader, x-L-x +, writes (10 September 2006):
 i no exactly what your saying...i thought i loved my boyfriend and after 8 months i ended it coz i liked someone else...then my ex got a girlfriend and i couldnt bare it, it felt wrong him not being with me...eventually we got back together and it felt like a dream come true having that special someone back in my life. i think you need to take a day at a time, u obviously care about this guy alot even if it isnt love...you've got you whole life ahead of you and eventually your relationship might come to an end, dont let this worry you. try not to think about the future as much and just enjoy being around. him good luck x x x
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