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writes:so there's this guy I've liked for a while now. we were such good friends until he started being a jerk. he knew I liked him but probably thinks I don't anymore because of how he hurt my feelings. I forgave him and he was nice to me again. I think it was just because he felt bad because then he didn't talk to me as much anymore. we also work together and when I start a conversation with him he talks to me like when we first met. but if I don't say anything its like if I don't exist. then he askd my friend out, which didn't last more than two weeks because he broke up with her, but when they saw me they seemed to want to hide. during their dating time, at work he was nice to me and talked to me. but now when I try to start a conversation with him, he just gives me short, one word answers and is being so quiet when he's usually playful and loud. and sometimes he is more serious and listens to what I say and has a good conversation with me. sometimes he jokes with me and talks to me, but sometimes he doesn't. what does this mean?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 Hmm its hard to tell it really is. He might just have had a lot on his mind and never really noticed that he wasnt showing you attention. If you want to end all of this and find out once and for all, then talk to him, tell him how you feel about his behaviour and just ask him straight out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell now he has been talking to me more and waves at me. and when we had an away football game (he plays & I'm a student athelic trainor) at a stop, when we were heading back to the bus he waited for me to catch up and started talking. I have been trying to ignore him to see how it goes and he's talking to me now. I never see him at school so I don't know if it would be the same situation, but at work he asked me about school projects and looks and smiles at me again and laughs at the dumb things I say. I'm confused even more now.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (16 November 2010):
If am honest i think he has known for a long time that you might have a little crush on him, and am sure that he is flattered but it sounds to me like he is not interested in you and he was always being friendly to you because he didnt want to hurt you, but i think he is fed up with having that cover up now everyday. Im sure he thinks you are a lovely girl but he probably doesnt want to get to close to you as you might think he is leading you on.
Just try and not talk to him for a while, take a few weeks and dont spark up a conversation with him and see if he will bother going to you and talking to you if he doesnt then you know then that he is not willing to make an effort to talk to you so i guess what you should do is just try and avoid him, dont spark up any conversations and if you see him smile say hello and keep walking. Goodluck.
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