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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I don't know what to do. My best friend (who I happen to have a crush on) isn't talking to me much these past few days. He used to talk to me everyday for hours non stop and he would call and text me.. then he stopped calling and now he won't even text me anymore. For these past few days he hasn't talk to me much, he says hi then leaves I don't hear from him for 3 days and then he says hi again, leaves again and on the 4th day he comes again to say hi.. it is every single 4th day. I don't want to ask him if he doesn't like me anymore (as a friend, since he never liked me more than that) because I know he will say that he didn't even notice.. but why do guys do this? He is slowly pulling away and I don't even know why. He doesn't have a gf and has never had one at that so I can't blame it on a gf. I feel so sad, because I miss him.. after talking to him for 7 years non stop it got me so used to him. Any ideas comments help thank you
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 May 2011):
 Ok well you have admitted yourself that you have a crush on this guy but you also admit that he does not return your feelings. It must be a horrible situation for you to be in and I feel for you I really do, but I think it is time that you realised that he doesnt share the same feelings as you and that one day he is going to find a partner and settle down and you are going to be left hanging. Obviously you are going to miss talking to him every day for hours on end, he has been a big part of your life for 7 years and actually I think you have became rather dependant on him and his friendship. I actually think it will be healthier for you to take a step back and concentrate on your own life. Dont hang around waiting for him to call you or text get on with your own life. Just because he is not contacting you as much doesnt mean that he thinks any less of you as a friend he is obviously just not got the time or he is concentrating on other parts of his life. You must remember that sometimes even the closest of friends do not contact each other every single day and that as we get older we lose a little contact with friends as our lives grow I guess it is just something that we need to accept.
So my advice is to welcome this distance between the both of you, because I feel that it is long over due and will be healthy for you, use your spare time to socialize with other friends and do fun things. Be independent. Good Luck.
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