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writes:Im kind of unsure now..and dont know what to think. My mate reckons the guy ive liked for ages actually wants me...but im unsure. Theres been some background between us. To me it was obvious he liked me however i never said anything as i was very very shy, all he would do is sit there and stare at me and just the way he acted and everything it was easy to tell. Though back then we could even be proper friends as someone got jealous and spread rumors about me. Now all thats over, we've all moved on, new things happening in our lives i still see this guy as we are good friends, in a weird way but hes always said i mean a lot to him. We do talk however i have to be the one to start it. Hes not a talkative person anyway unless you see him in person. If he has something to say he will talk for ages but as for making conversations over msn and everything he never does, unless its to just see how people he hasnt seen in a while are going on. The thing ive always found strange is when we are out he will talk to me if we have something to say but he tends to sorta go past me and finds it easier to talk to the others. But the events of two nights that we have met up and lead my mate to think he actually wants me and this is his way of trying to tell me. This guy doesnt have much confidence in the girl department, hes incredibly shy and the only time he ever went for a girl was when she gave him so much attention you couldnt ignore it. she was all over him, all the time and made him feel confident, she did however hurt him as it was all just a bit of fun on her half.So these past couple of times he got abit weird. It could be nothing but i would like your opinion on what you think. The 1st one, he asked me to stay out with him and we went to this bar where i started trying to mess around with him, to my amazement after a while he did it back, I sat on his knee just messing around and he started cuddling me from behind. but the way he did it he just proper sunk into me and wouldnt let go, it felt like he'd really been wanting to do it if you get me it felt strange, he seemed abit not nervous but shy in a way. We carried on messing around and he kept cuddling me and stuff. At one point he took hold of my hand and told me he was sorry for everything that happened in the past(the whole me and himn couldnt be friends thing) and that i was a great mate to him. After this he got even closer to me and kept cuddling me. Even when we were just sitting there he kept moving closer. Then on another occasion it was just a normal night out, he was being a bit quiet actually but lets just say i got abit ill..well i felt very ill and a linked arms wiv him walking out the pub and him and our mate walked me home. We were sat down though waiting for some chips and i kept leaning on him and said i didnt feel well. He grabbed hold of my arm jst rubbing it saying i'd be ok and then for some reason he just looked at me and held my hand, only for afew seconds, he seemed to be unsure about it, the way he did it he seemed a bit afraid. Then we were just sat there and he started cuddling me, he brought his head down to mine at the side(kind of like you were gonna try and kiss someone but i know it wasnt that) and held my hand again properly this time. All the way home he had hold of me, he wouldnt let me go, on the one occasion where i did walk on my own he ran up behind me and grabbed me from behind hugging me and then told me to stay with him....not that i was far away from him anyway. SO i did, he had his arm round me and everytime i moved mine from round his waist(because i was cuddling him going home) he put it back there, grabbing my hand at the same time so the next time he did it i just decided to hold his hand. It was the way he had hold of me though, he was getting really close and it felt really affectionate lol. He wouldnt stop hugging me when we seperated and everytime i went to go he kept hugging me tighter and then i noticed just before we did part he had his hands on my bum. He text me later telling me not to worry(as i thought i'd ruined the night) and put xXx at the end.Thing is thats not like him, he wasnt drunk at all that night, even when he is it makes no difference because deep down hes really shy and honestly has no idea sometimes what to do. I've been told to be more flirty with him now because people reckon it could lead somewhere but what do you think? This guy has also admitted that he was always wondering back in the day did i like him did i not...even though he had been told i dont think he fully believed it
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): If he was shy he wouldn't have put his hands on your bum. He's not too terribly interested if you want to know the truth but probably wouldn't mind a sex buddy if you were the aggressor. He ain't going after anything but will probably take it if you keep chasing him.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (6 February 2010):
 OK I think the time has come to be honest and upfront with this guy, being all flirty with him has made some progress for sure but the guy still really doesn't know for sure that you really really like him and the only way he will believe him is if YOU tell him, face to fact that is and not via a friend or on MSN, face to face.
Ask to meet up with him as you need to talk to him about something.
If he is shy, he probably just doesn't believe that someone like you who he has always liked - feels the same way he does.
He has been hurt in the past and is obviously really worried about that happening again and you definitely let your guard down when you are drunk but you don't actually do much else when you are sober, mixed signals in my book and probably in his.
Life is too short to keep on playing games, you are no longer a child and I think this poor guy deserves a break so be honest with him and truly tell him how you feel about him.
If he goes quiet or wants some time to himself, let him. He possibly needs to actually believe what you have told him, on the other hand he may just grab you and kiss you which is what you have been praying for now for some time.
Keep us posted on what happens, your friend's can tell you to be flirty but you have been doing that and I think it is time for the final stage, take the plunge as you will never know what the water is like until you do OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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