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*ayola
writes:Hello,I've recently got together with a good friend who is a bit of a geek and has always seemed a innocent fridgit.He says he wants to have sex but I don't know whether this is him competing with my ex or trying to prove he's not a little boy anymore.He tries to convince me by saying it will only make our relationship stronger and that its better for us, but somehow i don't feel this is him talking...I'm unsure if I'm ready myself, yet in occasions, i do feel as if we should...HELP?!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): i smell bs, no man should ever rush a woman, it doesnt sound like that he wants a good relationship, just he want's to pressure you into sex. i dont believe you should even go there if you dont feel that you are ready, what if you do give in to him and then he drops you once he had what he wants if he really does want a strong relationship then he would be man ebough to respect you and wait until you are ready, if not then you need to ask yourself whether you want to be in that situation and whether you want to really be with him. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): It sounds like he hasn't had very much (or any) experience with sex and is desperately trying to get some. I don't think it's because he genuinely thought this through and believes it will 'make the relationship stronger'. Even if he does to some extent believe that, I suspect that's not the only reason.I'd advise you to wait a little while longer, even if you do feel ready. It will at least help you tell if he is really serious about you or if he is just trying to get laid. If you tell him you want to wait and he really starts pressuring you or getting angry then that's warning sign of what he's really after. It could be that he does really like you and is just hoping for sex sooner rather than later but at least this way you stand less chance of being used purely for sex.
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