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writes: me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now, we started off as really really good we'd had never felt the same bout someone else like that before. but there was always interuptions, like the world was against us.anyways when it was time for us to be together everything stuffed up, we didnt know how to be. wat to do our lives were so diff but we tried anyway.he turned out to hurt me alot, mistakes, lies and what not, ive always forgiven him and tried to work things out becos i loved him but the last mistake he made had pushed me over the edge and i dont know how to feel anymore, i get so annoyed when i'm around him, why is that?what he did, i had never been so hurt in my entire life before and to be honest i know deep down i deserve to be happy, but will i find my happiness here? has anyone felt like this before? please help me, i need to know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): I absolutely feel what you are going through. Its really hard to stay with someone thats hurt you soo bad. You look at yourself and wonder why you keep going back. Reason is because your used to him. Your used to the way he is, the way he talks, the way he looks at you, etc. Which makes it a hole lot more difficult trying to see yourself without him, or with someone else.
My advice is to do whats best for you. Sit down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel, if its trust issues than its better if ya'll work at it together. Because lets face it, men sometimes take action without thinkin. But if there really is true love its worth the try. And if it doesnt work at the end at least you can say you tried. And with no regrets you can move on.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (22 August 2008):
 If you truly can not forgive him for the hurt he has caused you it is best to move on. At this time, I do not think you have honestly forgiven him much less gotten past it. If you don't forgive him and change the way your relationship has been in the past, the past will repeat itself. Even if you forgive him, it may not be in your best interests to stay with him as the relationship could always have that constant dark cloud hanging over it and you could always be left waiting for the other shoe to drop. Sometimes when too much damage is done, it is best to move on. I think starfairy's idea of staying away for some period of time is wise.
I'd also like to say that if you can not forgive him, it is ok.
Good luck.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (22 August 2008):
 I think you need some time away from him, to get your head straight and see how you feel about him...If you miss him and realise you love him and can't live without him, then you work at it. If you are away from him and find you're stronger/happier/better without him, then there's your answer...
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