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writes: hi, ok so ive been with my boyfriend for 18th months and its definately love, he might even be 'the one!' (if he's lucky!)... anyway, just concerned about the fact that when we go out together say to the pub or wherever we dont get along as well as we do wen we're sittin on the couch cuddlin and watchin tv. we argue about silly stuff and the night ends up getting ruined! now, hes fairly quiet person, not shy, just quiet. and i have a tendancy to talk and talk an bore him with mindless chatter! is it normal for couples to argue more when theyre forced to focus their attention solely on each other for a few hours without the company of tv,other people, even food!??? and how do we overcome it? i can keep quiet but then we'd sit in silence both just lookin around ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006): Well, I think that if you are not at the point where you are comfortable in silence, then maybe you are just trying too hard to fill in that space between you with endless chatter....your boyfriend may be like me and be an introvert who is not at all shy or serious, but needs to be alone with his thoughts in order to renergize, and if you are along for the ride then you could just pleasantly let him be quiet for awhile...and hold his hand or gaze into his eyes, and ask him questions about his day or himself rather than talking about you....
Also, having a strong interest in some of the same things makes your relationship more fun and I don't mean tv and or sex and cuddling, I mean interests, hobbies, etc.
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