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writes:I have been seeing a very nice guy for about a month now. Fell in love and everything is perfect when we are alone together, but the moment we are in a group with friends its almost as if he gets very insecure abut us. He tells me I look around at other guys, and he feels like I am not giving him enough attention etc. Then he goes into theses weird moods, becomes very distant, and tells me if this is the way its going to be he would rather be alone than date anyone. Now, I am NOT a flirt, I am a decent bloke and I have and will never cheat on anyone. He says he knows I wont cheat on him, but he is having troubles to trust me - what ever that means.He is in his early thirties, and haven't really date before.
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reader, countrylover0976  +, writes (3 December 2011):
Honestly, it takes a while to trust someone. Maybe new situations he has never experienced are happening and he is unsure how to react. Alot of times there is a talkative person and a quiet person in a relationship and the quiet one gets left out. If you feel it would help, bring him into the conversation and open him up to things maybe he has never experienced.
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reader, mammaboo  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Sounds like he is being manipulative and you have to stop this befor it gets out of hand.These are his insecurties. Tell him you are willing to support him and understand his issues, but you are not willing to be made to feel guilty or bad about talking to others.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Hi,Talk to your partner, and tell him that this is making you unhappy. Explain to him that you love him, that he has nothing to worry about. Besides that, tell him that you never did, or never will cheat on him. Tell him, instead of getting upset, why can't you join me, and have fun together? Tell him that when he behaves this way, makes you sad, hurt your feelings, and it gets very stressful. Ask him: don't you know me by now? It's not my characterIt's clear that your partner is a jealous person, which means he's insecure. I guess, since he didn't have much experience in dating, he feels vulnerable to you. You need to talk, reassure him that he has nothing to worry, and he needs to change his behavior. He needs to realize that this is wrong, it's affecting both of you. If continues, it will lead to constantly arguing, then the relationship becomes unhealthy. He needs to learn how to trust you. The sooner, the better. Be patience, I am sure your partner will understand you if you explain to him nicely. Good luck
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