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writes:Arg hello aunts..please help!so..I met this guy..hes lovely; into everything im into and such a good guy. I have met up with him a few times and we have kissed etc (but not had sex)...recently i asked him if he had been with anyone else since seeing me last and he revealed that he has been texting other girls. His justification for this is that he is not the type to have a relationship and so likes to keep his options open. he expressed how against cheating he was (that he would always tell the girl he was 'seeing' if he was to meet up with another girl). I KNOW i should stay away from him..esp if he is not looking for anything special..and i am not prepared to share my guy like that...its just, i just dont know what to do. I was the one that persued him first (he apparently doesnt 'do' chasing..but it was me that got in contact with him..although he made a move on me first)I would just love some advice on what to do...I know i should forget about him..but is there a chance that he could change? Or even that he is lying? (altho he did go on for agggges about why he doesnt want a relationship). I love the honesty, but its far too painful to hear. I sure do pick them :\please help!
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (11 October 2009):
 Don't ever get into something with someone else expecting them to change, because you will always end up being hurt.
Believe him when he says he doesn't do relationships. If you get involved with him you will be strung along and won't have what you really want - instead you'll be unhappy with the crumbs he tosses you.
Do you think you will really be happy being one of many options?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2009): I'm a man and I honestly don't understand don't understand men like this. That said, if he genuinely is against being in a relationship, then your wants are clearly incompatible. You won't be able to change him. If you're looking for something more than a bit of fun on the side, I'm afraid you're just going to have to keep looking.
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