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writes: No one is perfect? I met a guy from my working place, his working attitude is not so good, kind of messy and sluggish at times.He likes me, I hestiate cos Im worried that he can't be a good lover, since he is irresponsible in work,shall I give him a chance?
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reader, bonym  +, writes (2 September 2006):
 Good for you, I do hope it works out. Take care. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear All,
Im the sender of this question, thank you of all the useful advises and suggestions.
I think I will give him a chance and also to myself to have a better understanding of this guy, never try never know, afterall, it has been more than a year already, I believe he is sincere to me, if we can't work thing out, we can still remain as friend.
Once again, thank you and God bless you guys :)
Cheerio
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2006): There are tons of people who do not like their jobs but they still function at that job efficiently and possess the foresight to work hard at it because it pays the bills. So yes, dependability is something to consider. While you have the freedom to choose whomever you want to date, you would not be wrong to be cautious and ward off involvement with someone who you really don’t know very well and you have some concerns about. If you have a belief system that goes against poor work ethics, messy behaviours--then don't date him. Quite often, iregardless of whether a person likes their job or not, messiness and a poor work ethic may be a good indicator of how he functions in his personal life, as well. I think you are smart to discriminate. You will have to decide what you will be able withstand in a relationship with any man because dating is a form of shopping around and trying to find the right person who suits you. Try thinking about what you really want in a relationship and hold out for it. There are plenty of wonderful, guys out there who are looking for love, who are hard workers and take pride in their jobs. It's your decision...make the best choice that suits you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2006): He probably just hates the job. Don't let this worry you. You're not marrying the guy, you just want to go out with him. Could it be a reflection of personal sloppiness and disdain for life? Yes. Could he just be waiting out the clock every day at work? Absolutely. Have fun!
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reader, bonym +, writes (1 September 2006):
I agree with Stina, go out with him a few times and get to know him outside of work, sometimes, some people may act a certain way at work, but in reality and outside of the office, they may be a totally different person. There is no harm in giving it a try and see how you get on. xXx
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (1 September 2006):
 Maybe he just doesn't really care about his work but if he was in a relationship that he really cared about, would he make more of an effort? Or maybe that is his personality through and through? The only way to find out is to give him a chance. People are often very different outside work so maybe he will be. Good luck
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reader, smeedle +, writes (1 September 2006):
 listen to yourself I bet he could find faults with you if he tried, what has his work attitude to do with his attitude to relationships, you either like him or you dont if you do then go for it, stop thinking about things to much.
He may also be doing a job he detests and that is why he is not so fired up about his job.
give the bloke a break, go for it!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2006): Honey, if he isn't so good at his job and possibly faces unemployment due to this lack of work ethic; is this man reliable?
He may be good in the sack but you need to think long term.
You would be giving him a chance at what? For how long? Just for sex? Hmmm.
I think you already made a decision.
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reader, stina  +, writes (1 September 2006):
 Hi Anon,Everyone is different so I can't really answer that question. But I suggest going on a couple of dates with him to find out what he's like when not at work. Get to know him on another level. Just because he's messy at work doesn't mean that he will be at home.I know a few people that work in very messy and cluttered work environments. It surprised me to see how organized they were in their personal lives. One of my friends told me it's because she valued that over work - being with friends, having fun, etc so she focused on that more. Maybe that's now this guy is, too.Go out and have fun. If it ends up not working out, then you two can still be friends. Just take it slow so nothing awkward happens at work if things don't go as you'd like them to go.Take care.
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