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writes: i am 16 and in love with this one nice guy...we have been dating for half a year now..he is everything to me and we love each other really much but the thing is that my parents do not like him because he is not my ethnicity..my parents are really old fashioned and so they want me to break up with him..what should i do?? listen to my parents and break up with him or stay with him and prove my mother and father wrong?? Reply to this Question
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (24 November 2006):
 For a simple life, find another guy who is from your own ethnic group. Your parents are set in their ways and I don't think there is any convincing them.
Inter-racial relationships can work but truth is...it's a lot of effort.Are you prepared to make all that effort? Destroy the relationship with your parents? Is it worth it? Maybe you don't agree with your parents veiw points but is it worth ruining your relationship with them over this one guy?
However, if you do back down and do what your parents want you to do this could be telling them that you agree with their old fashioned ways and your happiness will be sacrificed for your parents.
Decide what is best for you and if you are prepared to make all the effort then go ahead and keep seeing this guy. If you put in enough effort and if you are determined to make it work then maybe your parents will come round. You are still very young to be taking on difficulties like this. So personally, (You don't have to agree with this) I think you should find another guy to save yourself the hassle.
Good luck
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reader, Meeh_06 +, writes (24 November 2006):
 It depends. This seems like a win-lose situation. The only advice I can give as an outsider is - 'Family is forever'. Your family will always be there, this boy might not. If you are sure he is 'the one', you could try persuading your parents he is true by asking him around for a family meal, or some other family meeting.
Good luck
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