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*riaz
writes:i was under the impression a classmate of mine liked me, but now i don't think he likes me anymore. I thought he liked me because our mutual friends made multiple comments about us as a couple (i.e. me being "his boo/girl") which i pretended i didn't hear, asking whether or not i would go out with him, which threw me. I probably didn't give the response they were hoping for. I said "I don't know". There were also a couple other things I noticed in the beginning(i.e. he knew my name before I knew his, and would say hi whenever he saw me) We didn't really talk much since we're both shy, but now, we don't talk at all. Over break, we went to Knotts with a group, and I felt like he was avoiding me (he sat with everyone on the rides except for me, hardly talked to me, walked quite a distance from me)Now,I've noticed that he sits really far from me in class. It's like he can't stand me or something. He's never asked for my number and doesn't talk to me on social media. I'm really confused now. Did I do something to offend him? Does he not like me anymore? What's up?
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reader, priaz +, writes (5 February 2014):
priaz is verified as being by the original poster of the question:/ this sucks. I wish he was upfront about this. I feel like I was ambushed by my friends.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 February 2014):
 So he liked you and he was getting his friends to feel you out... and it was clear that you didn't care one way or the other based on your response.
IF you like him and want to get to know him, it's on YOU now to fix the game you started by saying "i don't know" when you really WANTED to say 'yes'
IF you don't like him (and I doubt that's the case or you would not even care that he's playing hard to get now) then it doesn't matter does it?
I think the issue is he sent out feelers and your response of "I don't know" put him off.
granted he needed to step up and be a man and approach you directly instead of sending his friends to find out (you all sound about 14 with this) but since he didn't you needed to be a mature 21st century woman and take the bull by the horns if you want to go out with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2014): Sounds like he liked flirting with you and maybe had a crush on you, but decided you didn't like him back and he moved on. Right now, for whatever reason, he's sending off clear signals that he's not interested. I doubt you did anything 'wrong', he just probably assumed nothing was going to come of it. Or, he just liked flirting and found your friends' actions embarrassing and potentially leading you on and decided to back way down. I wouldn't take it personally.
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