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writes: I have managed to let myself get involved with a married man. He never ever hid the fact he was married, he says he loves me but he does not want to put his kids through a divorce. I tried to cut ties but to no avail. He says he thinks about me all the time and I do the same...now I am always hurting and I don't know what to do. Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to thank the people that took the time to read my question and give me their thoughts/advice on what to do.Thanks from the bottom of my heart
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): He's having his cake and eating it. Lucky him !Poor you and poor wife. Lets hope you never have to face your husband having an affair with someone else. You are worth more than this he'll get over you and replace you if his marriage is the problem. Do it first replace him with a decent man not a cheat.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Get rid of him he is ,married dump him tell him you are not interested don't get involved with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): Break up with this guy. A) He's not divorcing his wife because he doesn't want to It is not for the sake of the kids...if they didnt love each other any more then they WOULD break up for the sake of the kids. B) You're making your self an easy outlet for sex. Most men are horrible despite what they say. All he wants you for is sex. Really. C) Your hurt is beus somewhere in your mind you are aware of A and B coupled with the fact of what you're doing to his wife. Imagine you were her and the love of your life was banging some woman behind your back. What would you think? Also, he is obviously still having sex with his wife, so how much do you think he loves you? Break it up and find somebody who is right for you and not already taken.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): hi there..trust me i know the feeling. i was also in the same position and found it hard to explain my feelings to anyone. i tried all means to keep him at bay but to no avail. i realised at the end of the day he wasnt mine to keep and to love and cherish all my life. you have to be strong and realise what you want out of life. it matters alot becos u urself have the power to make things happen in your life. the first step towards happiness in life is putting a stop towards hurting urself all the time. it is hard especially if you luv someone with al ur heart and cannot be with them..but honey life doesnt end itself. the biggest sin one cn ever do is to give pain to ur ownself. and you live once...so go out there and make the most of it...minus any expectations. it took me five years to work out myself and trust me its a great feeling once you do. we are different, im not saying u will also take five years, just be true to urself and ur feelings and i hope you can work things out. just rmber, only u hve the power to make that difference. so good luck and keep smiling. D
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (28 April 2006):
He's married and therefore not available. Say to him that you don't want a relationship with him, and if he wants one with you, then that means that he has a problem in his marriage. Say that he should either work on his marriage or end it, but that if he ends it, you won't promise that you'll have a relationship with him, but you will promise that you won't have one for at least 3 months after he has left his wife.
Then, he may give up, or he may choose to leave his wife, and if he does, wait, and when you have waited long enough, then maybe have a relationship with him.
Stay strong and good luck
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