He's leaving on an internship. Should I trust him living with another girl?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Alright, so my guy and I have been dating for almost 2 years and this summer he is going away for an internship for two and a half months. Last summer he had to go away for a week for an orientation for this internship, while there he made a lot of friends (both males and females). Him and this group of people went our to eat together and went sight-seeing together. While he was away we talked on the phone everyday. Sometimes not very much, but I just thought he was busy and tired to be excited for him. Well, when we got home I was looking at all of his pictures online and noticed that the same girl was next to him in a lot of the shots and she also started leaving him messages on his facebook page. None of the photos were that incriminating and neither were the messages. (One was like... I told all my friends about you, but that was the worst.) Eventually, I did come across a couple pic that were kind of bad. The whole group was laying on a bed and was on top of him. There were other guys with girls on top of them in the picture, but I was still upset. I asked him about it and he said he was sorry and that nothing happened. He told me that she was kind of annoying. Well, I let it go and haven't said anything else about it. She still leaves messages on his page occassionally, but nothing too bad. Well, this winter he decided to do his internship in Colorado instead of Seattle, which was where he was originally thinking of going. (He said because it was better work in Colorado). Turns out this girl and her friend are going to the exact same place. When she found out she messaged him and told him how excited she was and that they were going to have so much fun. She also said that she was pretty sure he should live with her and her friend. He just told her he didn't know if they were allowed to pick were they lived and I think right now he's just waiting to figure that out. I haven't told him I know all of this. I don't know for sure if he really does want to live with them or not. Or if I am overreacting. However, I do think I have a reason to be a little worried and that its understandable that I would prefer if he didn't. Should I be worried? Should I bring it up to him? What if I do and he still chooses to? Any ideas?

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