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writes:I am 23 years old and for the first time in my life met the most lovely guy who was everything I had ever dreamt of recently. He was good looking, very fashionable, very kind, warm hearted, a good friend, very deep and loved doing things most gay guys don't like going for walks in the park and taking me for picnics it was magical. He is 21 and im 23. We got on so well and talked for hours and hours and it was just perfect. However he is from america and I live here in London. He is here until Christmas studying as part of his last year of his degree in the states. So I was preparing myself for being upset when the time came for him to go home which of course he had too. Life can be mean at times but we have no control over who we meet or fall in love with. I really fell in love with this guy and cannot stop thinking about all the adorable things we did, I am reminded everywhere I go in London of all the places we saw and walked past and I cannot escape the memories. He has backed off now and told me that he needs to focus on himself and his studies as he goes home in just over a month. I did wonder why he had cut it short earlier than he is leaving but I think deep down though there is a remote possibility that he has gone off me that he was starting to fall for me and it was getting serious and he does not want to be hurt. He said he has been hurt in a bad way before. He also said he needs to focus on getting his degree and his career started and I understand this. I cannot just expect someone to up sticks and leave their career and country for me. I know now I need to let go and it will do no use in keep texting and calling and we are on good terms. He says he will say goodbye to me before he goes home and we can keep in touch on Facebook/email etc. However I really do feel like he is the one and believe me I have dated so many men and always remain true to myself and will never change. Noone has ever come 100 miles closer than he has to making me feel special. I feel like he is the one but now is just not the right time for us as he has to go home and its difficult. Though I appriciate people may say I will 'get over it' or meet someone else and I appriciate this is a possibility but the gay scence is so hard and there are few rare gems in the ocean who are decent guys who are genuine and who I want to meet and have a relationship with. I cant put my life on hold but does anyone think if this guy does mean the world to me that if we keep on good terms one day we could be happy and make a go of things. I would do anything for him and hope that when his life is more settled he might look back and realise what we had was good. I have cried myself to sleep every night and look at the picture of us both I have on my bed side table. He was an angel and noone has ever touched my life in such a way like that before, I believe its a rare thing. We stared into one anothers eyes all night and I was so proud to walk around London holding his hand. It was that feeling when I was with him like if I lost my job and had no money I could not be more happier with him at my side. Will people please tell me what they think. Is there hope and what is the best way to get him if my heart is telling me he is the one. I am a really good guy and a good person and am in a really bad way. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): If he is really the one he will return. Keep contact your going to have to do this his way if it will work out. Make sure you write to him. What's his favourite colour? Whats his favourite movie books? What things can you do to make him think of you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): You only live once. If he's the one for you and you think he even remotely feels the same, you should do whatever it takes to make things work out. Even if it means packing up and following him back here to the USA... or anywhere for that matter.
Hell, jobs come and go... Careers are great and all that. But the one special person who completes your life? That may well be a once in a life opportunity.
The conditions in which I met my wife weren't great, but we couldn't be without each other so I know how you feel. I did whatever it took to be with her, I wouldn't take no for an answer... almost 8 years later and I'm so glad I did. I could have easily walked away and looked for something more convenient or easier, but I can't honestly think there's a better person out there for me than her.
Good luck to you both.
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