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writes:I'm 16 and recently found out the guy I like is into me. Thanks to you on here who offered me advice I couldn't have done it without you. =) My problem is my ex boyfriend still has feelings for me, and my new crush is really good friends with him. He says he can't go out with me because it would hurt my ex. I don't have any feelings for my ex anymore, except small friendly ones, and I know there is no chance I would ever want to get back together with him. How can I let him down gently so I can still see my new guy? I really like him. Please help!! x
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (24 January 2006):
 I can tell you are a kind and caring person from this post, still being considerate of your exs feelings, it does you alot of credit as a person that you are so. However sometimes there is no easy way and you can only soften a blow not avoid inflicting it.
Depending on the time scale involved you may want to give things a little time to settle down. Alternatively, maybe you and your new crush should consider approaching your ex together and telling him directly how you feel. Tell you ex that you both wanted to talk to him because his feelings matter to him as a valued friend. Dont make your actions dependant on his blessin but explain that you would like him to be able to let go and move on in his life too and that you both will remain his friend. Hope that helps, you deserve happiness for being so kind.
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reader, cry-on-my-shoulder +, writes (24 January 2006):
dear writerisn't it obvious! you need to hint to your ex you are totally over and hint to your crush that your into him try it..trust me,it works every timeif it doesnt work write to me and i will give you more advice!dont worry!!!!!!!!!!!luv amy.d (12 and 3/4)
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