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writes:i am 21 and i am in a relationship with a guy,A, who is nice,very caring for almost 2 years.we are both aboroad studying.but i am getting bored with him and we always quarrel.recently,i have been chatting online with this another guy,B, who's is back at home and is also a good friend of my former classmate.we are getting closer day by day and B has told his interest towards me.i like B too but at the same time,i don't want to hurt A.wat should i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (12 October 2007):
You need to make a choice. Start by telling A what is going on. Then make a decision after you discuss it.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (12 October 2007):
 I think you should look carefully before you leap. I dont think its my place or anybody elses to say for sure that you should do X, Y or Z in this context but you should at least consider things, the grass always looks greener on the other side but that doesnt mean it always is. Having said that not wanting to hurt somebody isnt a sufficent basis to stay in a relationship mainly because in the long-run you always end up doing the opposite of what you intend.
Think carefully about what is missing from your current relationship and whether that can be got back and what B is providing at the moment that A isn't. If it's just that B is new and exciting then you have to bear in mind that there will come a time when he isnt anymore. Decide what you really want and stick firmly to that course. Good luck.
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reader, Titania70 +, writes (12 October 2007):
That's the typical triangle situation and it happens so often that you learn to deal with it in the end. I have learned that it's important to weigh pros and cons of being with my current partner. Also important is to be brutally honest with your current partner. Tell him you're bored and that you've started fancying someone else. He might ask you who this other person is but he does not need to know. WHat he needs to understand is that to make you happy he needs to step up or you'll be off. If he loves you and cares about you, he will. If he doesnt, you have someone else waiting in the wings anyway ;) by talking to your current partner you're giving him the chance to improve his ways and the chance to try and make you happy. If you say nothing and you end up leaving him, it'll be a shock for him. How many times have we heard that story? Let's be part of a more honest reality and give each other a chance to improve ourselves and our relationships. You might just gain extra respect by being so honest too. Good luck!
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