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writes:I feel so confused right now. Basically i have been seeing this amazing guy for the last 3 months. Everything has been going really well, but there has always been this problems from the start. Basically he is in the army and is getting re-posted to another base that is a couple of hours away. I've told him that i want to give us ago and it does not matter about the short distance. However he does not seem to know what he wants, and since his ex gf cheated on him, he seems to have trust issues. I think this is stopping him from wanting to be with me. He is still really into me and wants to see me, but i just don't know where i stand in the long term. I just feel confused and it is stressing me out. I know it's not easy dating a guy in the forces, but i really like him and i'm worried i will lose him. What can i do to make him see that i only want him and that we shoudl give things ago?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answers guys, but moving up to where he will be posted won't work as when he goes on tour i will spend 6 months being alone. Not to mention you can only get a mod house if you are married, and i certainly don't want to do that as it's only been 3 months. lol. Thanks for your opinion and idea though. I just think i will have to see what happens. I just want to know where i stand and i don't understand why some guys can't just be honest and open up about their feelings.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 Ok well it is quite clear that he has trust issues to do with his past. I guess there is not a lot really that you can do here except reassure him that you want to be with him and keep telling him that. Sit him down and tell him exactly what you want and tell him exactly how you feel. This may boost his confidence. The more you keep reassuring him that everything will be ok the more confident he may get.
Yes it is hard dating someone that is in the army and it takes a lot of hard work and commitment on both parties. But if you both talk openly and honestly and both go in with your head straight then you can both make it work! Goodluck.
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 Hey,This may be a little much/weird to hear, especially from a 17 year old who has never had to deal with this... since he has some trust issues, and you OBVIOUSLY want to be with him - and he wants to be with you... why don't you move up there with him? it may make things tough for you, but you can adapt i'm sure :)if you don't want to move up, and you cannot deal with it any other way, then i would consider looking for another companion :Shope i helped
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