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writes: My boyfriend is messing me around and has been ignoring me for 4 days now people are saying I should give him another chance but my family are saying he's not worth it. I really like him but this is the second time he's done this to me.Should I dump him or not? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (2 August 2006):
 If you haven't actually heard from him, are you sure he's "ignoring" you. Is it actually possible that he's distracted by something important?
I think you're jumping to conclusions, and dressing up the situation to suit your needs. If you want to break up with him because you're unhappy about the way he is, or the way he responds to you, then perhaps you should. But don't do it by blaming him for a problem you're only theorising about.
Settle your ruffled feathers and try not to prejudge him. Wait until he pops back up again and ask him - casually, neutrally - where he was for the last X days. "I missed hearing from you. What did you get up to?"
If he tells you that he had to go Interstate to Nanna's funeral, or he was robbed and his phone was stolen, then you'll know that there was a genuine reason for the silence.
On the other hand, if he says he was just out with mates, and didn't have time to contact you, well then, that's a different matter.
Just make sure that your actions are based on fact and not assumptions.
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reader, Thachorie +, writes (2 August 2006):
 my boyfriend ignores me for days on end but then he always comes back and its like were very together again, i dunno give him another chance and if he does it again ask him whats going on, then if he does it once youve talked to him dump him!!!
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reader, trita4 +, writes (2 August 2006):
dear friend. i think u should give him time. may be he needs some space. it will occur to him if he misses you important you are to him. if he doesnt realise that, then givew him a break and wait to get another since it is not good to rush into a relationship just after another.
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