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writes:Hey, so this one is probably easy enough to answer, I think. There is this guy at work who seems to have taken a liking to me, he often touches my hands,my back and compliments what I wear and how I look. Now I understand there is flirting at work, but he's happily married and I have a bf. The other day he came up to me in an empty room took my hand and started to dance with me not proper slow dancing just his hand round my waist and holding my hand, he asked for a few hugs, before leaving for lunch. What I don't understand is why the dancing? Why did he do that? I know he is a little down at the moment (not marriage problems something else) Did he do it to seek comfort, or is he trying to hit on me again (he left me alone for a few weeks but the dancing started it again) anyone had anything similar or could help me understand?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 December 2012):
 whether he sees you as friends or more does NOT matter....
truly
what matters is how you see him and what you do with it.
I have many male friends at work... or at gaming cons... guys I may have lunch with or chat with or at gaming cons grab dinner and play games.
I might even dance with them if it came up, but not one gets the idea that he has a chance with me.
As long as YOU present YOURSELF as unavailable and you feel that way, he can hope and dream and pray for whatever he wants it's not going to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy main issue is that at first he seemed to want to be friends then he got close then distant then wanted to be friends and now this. He is a nice guy and I don't think he would pursue things with me(i wouldnt let him anyway)I would like to be friends as we have a lot in common and get on well. I just don't wheather the whole dancing and touching thing means that he can't see us as friends, and has other ideas. Thanks for all your advice on this :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 December 2012):
Well I've been known to dance at work... but then I'm a huge flirt... but I always talk about my hubby and how much I love him...
I love EyesWideOpen's suggestion...
I'm amazed at how often folks seek to find out WHY someone did something as if the explanation of the behavior makes a difference. WHY someone does something is not the issue... the issue is what you want to do about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2012): He wants to have his cake and eat it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2012): Im going through the same thing but he is the second boss under a boss this man comes over and flirts with me everyday and he claims to be happily married sometimes I catch him staring across the room at me he ask me to cook for him he even offered to give me a ride home I won't take nothing from him he is married .So my advice to you don't flirt back cause karma is a mf.Best Wishes
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 December 2012):
 Yep he's trying to hit on you. Next time Dancing Dan trys it, ask him how his wife is doing these days, and then tell him a cute story about your boyfriend.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (18 December 2012):
 He is trying to hit on you.
He is a douche bag.
Just think about his poor wife and go home and hug your boyfriend.
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