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anonymous
writes:I love this guy but he's going out with one of my best friends. I don't know how he feels about me exactly but we flirt with each other loads. I can imagine myself being with him forever because he seems so right for me. We're very close to each other and he makes me laugh. My best friend doesn't seem to be as close to him as I am so I don't know if he's just going out with her so he has a girlfriend. I don't like admitting my feelings because I've been hurt in the past. He's all I ever think about but I don't know what to do. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): you should back off. you shouldnt even be flirting with him because he is with your best mate. Im 15 and ive done that with my best mates boyf. we argued and we stopped being friends and it wasnt nice. we're friends now but if i could change things i would have.
dont even go there. back off. it doesnt matter if they dont seem as close as you too. hes with her and not you.
ur still young and you're going to be able to see yourself with him. but be realistic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): I don't think you should admit your feelings because he is dating your BEST FRIEND. Unfortunately! He is taken and by someone you care about. The best thing to do here is look elsewhere and IF they break up and you have the go ahead from BF tell him then. Seriously you don't want to hurt your BF over someone you don't even know likes you in that way. You would feel ashamed if the feelings weren't returned and regret for hurting your BF if they were. Take Care
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): Ok. You might not like me for this but take a step back and try to forget about him for a bit. You might really like him, but are you really sure that he likes you? He is going out with your friend and even if they don't seem that close, they're still together.
You might get hurt, yes, if you spoke up but think about your friend too. How would it affect your relationship? And is it really worth it coz you like the guy she's going out with? Think what this would mean also for this guy. It wouldn't be easy for any of you. So even though you really like him, I wouldn't do anything about it. I'm not telling you what to do, just giving you my views.
As harsh as it might sound, leave it be. Take a step back and have some fun. You're still young and it's just one of those things you'll have to let go of. Sorry. Best of luck. XXX
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