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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:ive been married for 4 years to a soilder. we have been together for 7 yrs altogether and i love him very very much. im 23 and hes 24. my problem is that he is getting out of the military and im not so sure how i feel about this. ive been military my whole life and i dont know nothing esle and i mean i married him cause i love him. but a big part of it was that he was military too cause i always said i wanted to be with a solider and it seemd like all my dreams were coming true. except now he wants out and has no idea what he wants to do im so afriad with the economy that he will fail and we wont be able to keep up our good lifestyle and i dont know if i can handle that!! ive tired to get him to stay in but he really doesnt i dont know i guess my question is how do i get pass this and try to look forward to something i think is a total MISTAKE!!!!i dont know if i can be happy stayin in one place for a long time or not being involved in military life!!! he has only known military for 5 years me on the other hand was born into even my grandfather was military!!!i just dont know if i really want a civilian lifestyle plllzz help me im soo confused and scared!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): if you truly love your husband you should try to support his decision. If he wants out then he must not be happy and why would you want him to do something he dosen want to and may resent you later in life if he stays in. I am in a similar sistuation. However, I'm not as found of military life but did love the income that supported a stable nice lifestyle. He got out and is now using the gi bill. I wont lie it's a big change and money is tight but he is very happy.
But, if life style is more important to you than
your husbands happyness maybe you should
take a look at your marriage. Marriage is for better or for worse. I think you should talk to
your husband and tell him your feelings & fears & see what he says. If he has a plan on what he wants to do when he's out & has a plan to support his family, you should consider it. Good luck and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): well if you love the military and its lifestyle so much, why don't you sign up???? That way you truely get to experience what you love rather than living through someone who obviously doesn't want to be there. Just a thought x
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