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writes:So I've like this boy in my year for a while now but he's going out with one of my best friends.However he is still showing signs of liking me after over two years of him liking me. All the time he asked he out I rejected him. We are now really close friends, he knows I like a boy but he doesn't know it's him, I really like and obviously I don't want to purposely break him and my friend up but I want to be with him. What should I do????
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reader, Little Heart  +, writes (11 June 2016):
Don't do it. What if you were her would you want to find out that your boyfriend and best friend like each other and have been wanting to go out while you were dating him? I don't want to make you feel bad about, actually im in the same situation but i decided i could never to do that to her so me and him agreed its best if we just kept away from those thoughts about us going out.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (7 June 2016):
 You should take a mature decision and ignore him until your friend breaks up with him. You might even tell your friend he has asked you out and you rejected him. She then has the decision of what to do with him. You have been honest and acted honourably. You haven't gone behind her back. It is her choice if she keeps him or not. It is fair for her to know he is unreliable. He might turn out the same were he with you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 June 2016):
 The fact this boy is already going out with somebody and yet is asking you to go out with him shows he is a flake and a jerk!
It is a scientific fact girls mature earlier than boys, which would suggest you are going to outgrow him soon anyway, so what you need to decide is if a short fling with a flake is worth betraying one of your best friends for.
Is it such a hard choice?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (7 June 2016):
 Don't. You'll lose your friend because it's not nice to date someone your friend has been with (especially not when its recent). You need to not think of yourself, right now, as I'm sure he seems almost "perfect" for you, but your relationship would be very unlikely to last long, when losing your best friend would. I know you don't want to break them up, but you can't have him and that's something you'll need to start learning to accept - you've both presumably had your chance to confess feelings and didn't; he chose someone else.Has he been asking you out whilst he's with your friend? If so, neither of you want to be with him; he's very inconsiderate and would probably do the same to you. Either he doesn't really like you as much as he seems to, or he's stringing your best friend along as his plan b for you rejecting him.Believe me, you don't want this drama - please leave it be and let the crush fade.
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