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writes:I have a best friend who I've been friends with since middle school. In our 9th grade year she started dating this guy who dated my sister in middle school. I didn't know him all so well. Eventually at the end of my 9th grade year me and my best friend and her boyfriend were all good friends. When summer rolled along I started having a feeling that he might like me. Reasons were because of things he would tell me or the attention he'd give me even when his GF was around. This one day I walked to his house to meet up with him and my best friend. We all played video games and eventually it was getting late. His GF tends to nap when she's over so she slept next to him and I was beside him. I was just lying there talking to him until he cut off my sentence and he asks me to get closer. I get closer and he makes me face him. He asks me to kiss him but I didnt so he leans over and kiss ME. I don't kiss him back so he stops. Eventually the GF wakes up but I don't say anything. I leave and he later texts me asking why I didn't kiss him back and I told him it was wrong. But as days went by I couldn't help but feel something for him. The next time I saw him is when me and him and my best friend went out to eat. We went back to his place and we played video games. She had to go home early so it was just us. I tried talking over about what happened that night but we ended up making out. By that time I knew it was wrong but I already felt something for him. It kept going farther and farther with us. Where he'd come over my house and we'd foreplay and it soon ended with us having sex. At times I feel I should tell her about it but I know what would happen. He would always ask what would she do if she found out we were doing things behind her back and she'd hate us. And she's been through so much with me that I don't want her to forget me. I know this is soo wrong and now we're not talking as much (me and him) which im glad about but it gets so awkward when we're all hanging out when we both know that there's more than just friends going on... I need help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): Okay.. If you want to do the "right thing" you HAVE to tell her. Its your only chance at repentance, since youve already done something horrible. She deserves to know... she can't continue trusting a guy like him. Yeah you may lose a friend, but that's the price you pay for that level of betrayal.Like, my bf and best friend are really close too, what should i have suspicions? It freaks me out... TELL HER.
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (9 February 2009):
 Be honest with yourself what means more to you your friendship or a fling with a guy who is cheating on your best friend with you?
If its your friendship (and to be honest friends stick around a lot longer then guys) then you need to stop seeing this guy break contact with him he cheated on her if you get with him no doubt he will cheat on you.And you need to tell her any relationship needs trust and if she forgivess you then great and if she doesnt then thats your fault.
If its this guy who is cheating with you and will probably cheat on you and mess you around and no doubt will eventually leave you then tell your friend whats going on. Im sure she will tell you both where to go.
Lets face it you are both treating this girl with no respect and any friend would not cheat on there bestfreind and if he loved her and wanted her he would not cheat on her.
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reader, 2dareANDdream +, writes (9 February 2009):
 " doing things behind her back" meaning your doing more then what happened that night.. Thats pathetic. You should be ashamed of what you have done, and know your not a good friend. Dispite your feelings for this guy. He is taken and he is not yours. She needs to know and she deserevs way better.. He cheated once, he will do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): I noticed you said you feel horrible but I am not going to sugar coat this for you. Your suppose to be her friend and you had sex with her boyfriend.. She trusts you with him,and you have betrayed her. You need to tell her and except what might happen. If she is a good friend she wont hit you, but understand if she is not goin to talk to you anymore. And for her, he slept with you he will cheat on her again. Do you want that for her? She deserves better. A better boyfriend and a way better " best friend"..
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