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writes:ive been with my boyfreind two years we met while still at school, i love him with all my heart and want to be with him forever. he's cheated on me before how do i know he won't do it again?
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (9 March 2007):
 I guess you never know whether he won't do it again but, if you want to make it work, you have to work on the trust so you believe he won't. I think everyone makes mistakes but I couldn't forgive a cheat: it's just too much to forgive and move on from for me, personally.
But if you think this can work and you can be happy with this man and trust him again, you need to start the hard work. If you're committed, and he is too, this can work out. But I don't believe trust is ever fully regained once it has been lost.
I think you need to think long and hard about whether you can put this effort into the relationship after he did that to you. You're only young and it sounds like you've always been with him: do you even know what life is like without him? I think finding out what it is like will do you good, then if you go back, you'll be more confident and not take any messing.
Make sure you don't forget about this easily: this is an invitation for it to be done again. Ask yourself honestly, do you think you can be happy and get over this? More to the point, are you willing to put in the hard work it will take to do this? If so, then I guess you can work on this.
Good luck
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (9 March 2007):
You cant know for certain, he shouldnt have done it in the first place. Enless he has really really said sorry and is REALLY making it up to you, i wouldnt waste your time on a cheater, it will be double the humiliation next time.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (9 March 2007):
 To be honest you dont know. Very few guys plan to cheat on their partners so if you have forgiven him for the past then leave it in the past and concentrate on the future.
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reader, Bella55  +, writes (9 March 2007):
You dont! Sort this out completely, because if you have doubts they will eat at your relationship. You have to give him the benefit of the doubt, which means trust him completely, its a decision in your mind. OR if that trust is broken its only going to prolong the heart ache. Its a mental decision, the ball is in your court.
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